i'm a senior in college right now and just got engaged in october. my FI and i have actually set a date for our wedding already, its 3 years away! (omg thats a long time) we;ve been together for almost 5 years and we're finishing up school anf paying for it so we wanted to wait a little while until we got married. so we're moving into an apartment this summer for the first time it will be ours, not me just visiting him or living in the dorms. all of our friends want us to have an engagement party and a couple have said that they would throw it for us. But my family does not apprive of the engagement and would rather give me a housewarming party, even though i'm not buying a house lol.
should i have the engagement party? the housewarming party? both? both at the same time in one big party?