awkward shower thank you note...

supertoaster82

So I will start off by saying that I know that it's somewhat traditional to give the bride lingerie at a bridal shower. However, this situation is just kind of... all around awkward to me.

FMIL and FSIL threw a co-ed wedding shower for me and FI over the weekend. It was mostly FI's side of the family (our guest list is very large, so my family is doing a second shower in January), some of FILs' friends, and then my immediate family (parents, sister, grandparents). One of FMIL's friends, who I don't think I've ever met (I may have met her once before, but I'm thinking the shower was the first time I'd met her) got me some pretty scandulous lingerie. Now, I'm not totally prude or anything, but it was super uncomfortable because a) I don't know this woman and she's buying me sexytime clothes, b) there were men at the shower, and c) three of those men were my dad, grandpa, and FFIL. 

I would have given her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't know it was co-ed, except that it was clearly stated in the invitation, and she came with her daughter and son-in-law. And even if she didn't know it was co-ed, I would feel really awkward buying lingerie for someone I don't even know. Needless to say, it's in the wrong size, and it's from a company I've never heard of, so I probably won't be able to exchange/return it anyway.

Anyway, I'm pretty much over the embarassment of my dad seeing me hold up a pink and black teddy and thong set :P my question is, how the heck to I word the thank you note? If it had been from one of my girlfriends, I'd have no issue of putting something about packing it up for my honeymoon or something to that effect. But I don't know this woman, and would prefer to not even casually hint at my sex life to her. She got me some bath stuff from Victoria's Secret too... can I just put something simple about "thank you for the lingerie and the bath set. can't wait to see you at the wedding!"? and, obviously, thank her for coming to the shower.

sorry this was long. any feedback is appreciated. I think I just needed to tell the story too! it caught me so off-guard!

kjack1201

I think I would definitely just keep it vague. No need to go into detail about the future use of the gift, especially such a personal one.

cebrady89

Oo, that would be so awkward...I'm so sorry!

I think you're fine keeping it vague in the thank you. I'm hoping she won't expect a detailed description of how much you're enjoying the lingerie, haha (but hey, ya never know).

Ash61612

wow, that had to be awkward! Sorry you had to deal with that. I would keep it vague in the thank you note.

smartlypretty

What the heck was she thinking?!? I cringled the entire time I read that.

scrpio421

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[QUOTE]What the heck was she thinking?!? I cringled the entire time I read that.
Posted by smartlypretty[/QUOTE]

That was exactly what I was doing...oh, how uncomfortable for you!!! And those poor guys!
I mean, c'mon, there's a reason why there's a registry! She couldn't have sprung for the toaster instead? Save everyone the awkwardness? lol So sorry for you. Just keep it vague and move on. Hopefully she doesn't ever bring it up!

supertoaster82

Thanks... I tried to just discretely look in the bag and say "thank you," but then people started shouting "hold it up!" I passed the bag to FI and let him make a joke out of it (thank GOD he doesn't embarass as easily as I do). 

and thanks for not making me feel like an idiot for thinking this was totally inappropriate... a few people were telling me it was "normal," which at a co-ed shower I didn't think there was anything normal about it. plus, even at an all girls shower, I wouldn't buy lingerie for someone that I don't know! 

rlavach

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[QUOTE]Thanks... I tried to just discretely look in the bag and say "thank you," but then people started shouting "hold it up!" I passed the bag to FI and let him make a joke out of it (thank GOD he doesn't embarass as easily as I do).  and thanks for not making me feel like an idiot for thinking this was totally inappropriate... a few people were telling me it was "normal," which at a co-ed shower I didn't think there was anything normal about it. plus, even at an all girls shower, I wouldn't buy lingerie for someone that I don't know! 
Posted by supertoaster82[/QUOTE]
I agree with PP regarding a vague TY note. No need for details.<div>
</div><div>I totally think it's weird for a stranger to give you lingerie, but the idea of lingerie at a shower (co-ed or not) isn't really that strange. In my neck of the woods, it's pretty common. I have 1 family friend who ALWAYS give lingerie. Never anything else. I'm prepared for it, so I'm just going to make light of it. </div><div>
</div><div>At the last shower I went to, the MOB gave her own daughter a lingerie set and her FSIL a matching PJ. Talk about AWKWARD!</div>