Fiances family inviting themselves to bachelorette party - waaaay ahead of time

srfgirlie5

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hlq2011

My FI's cousins were invited on my bach party but aren't coming; my FMIL and her sisters are not, and neither are my mom or stepmom.

Would you really feel like you can let loose around your FMIL but not around your mom?  That seems very strange to me.

I don't think you can get away with not inviting your mom and your aunts if the FMIL and her sisters are invited.  I'd honestly err on the side of not inviting them.  You have plenty of time; just don't mention the bach party to them when the time comes.

Regarding your sister... sisters don't have to be each other's MOH.  If you're not that close to her, then don't make her your MOH.  Just be prepared to deal with the fallout.  Or have both, if you think that's easiest and you'll be able to live with your decision.

ajroark

I would suggest having two bachelorette parties. One with your mom, sister and FMIL that could be more "reserved" (dinner, cocktails, maybe a night club) and the other with just your closest friends so you can really have a party! I just wouldn't tell your mom, etc. that you're also having another one, but really, it's none of their business anyway.

srfgirlie5

I thought about that but that's a lot to put on the plate of my MOH's and bridesmaids... unless my sister being the MOH planned the more reserved one and my matron of honor planned the other... GAH! But then it's like I'm EXPECTING these parties. Maybe it work out better if they ask what I'd like to do I say I'd like to have a lunch that day with the FMIL/mom and then dinner and wild stuff later that night.

srfgirlie5

and to hlq2011 as bad as it sounds I actually do feel much more comfortable around my FMIL than my mom. They are from opposite ends of the personality spectrum. I just don't see my mom enjoying bar hopping and strip clubs.

hlq2011

I can understand that. 

At the same time, I think I would still personally feel like I need to impress my FMIL.  Impress isn't really the word I'm looking for, but you know what I mean?

firsttimersluck

bridal shower= family appropriate
bach party= TOTALLY NOT fam appropriate.

my FSIL is totally pissed that i am not inviting her mom. My mom hasn't even seen me after a glass of wine, so no. i dont want my SMIL to see my hammered playing pin the penis on the man.
not cool.