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Bridal Shower Destination wedding

zhazha1719zhazha1719
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Okay, first a little bit of background.  My finace and I got engaged last February.  My family insisted on having an engagement party in June.  So, we did.  At the time I had mentioned to my maids of honor that I probably wouldn't have a Bridal Shower because of the engagement party.  I have since changed my mind.  we are now doing a destination wedding and many of the guests are not coming.  I really don't want to fight with my maids of honor.  Help!  Is it okay to still have the shower?  p.s. My future sister in law offered to do a shower brunch.

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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    Only guests invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower.  If you are inviting people to the wedding and they aren't making the trip, they can still be invited to the shower.  If you aren't inviting them to the wedding at all, they don't get shower invites.
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
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    edited December 2011
    I have no idea what fightint with you MOH has to do with anything, but ditto pp.
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  • zhazha1719zhazha1719
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    edited December 2011
    The fighting with the MOH was that she was mad that I changed my mind about doing a shower because we had the engagement party!  I just want to be sure that it's okay to have the shower even though we had the engagement party.
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bridal-shower-destination-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:7ea4c60c-0c22-48aa-9bed-8ec50cc2ae4fPost:0afd36b0-c6b3-4ca3-adb8-991e7ad1dc53">Re: Bridal Shower Destination wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]Only guests invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower.  If you are inviting people to the wedding and they aren't making the trip, they can still be invited to the shower.  If you aren't inviting them to the wedding at all, they don't get shower invites.
    Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this.
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  • kaykay25251kaykay25251 member
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    edited December 2011

    I think its okay to invite people to your shower that aren't invited to a destination wedding as long as they are invited to a reception back at home or something along those lines:)

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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bridal-shower-destination-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:7ea4c60c-0c22-48aa-9bed-8ec50cc2ae4fPost:29ea8171-bd87-497f-a6f4-c2575b33c637">Re: Bridal Shower Destination wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think its okay to invite people to your shower that aren't invited to a destination wedding as long as they are invited to a reception back at home or something along those lines:)
    Posted by kaykay25251[/QUOTE]

    I disagree with this.  In my opinion, at-home receptions should be for those invited to the wedding itself but unable to attend.

    You don't invite guests to a shower who aren't invited to the wedding ceremony itself.  AHR does not equal wedding.

    OP, you can have a shower even though you had an engagement party.  But if you're inviting only a couple people to the wedding, you shouldn't have a shower.

    If you're inviting a lot of people to the wedding - the wedding, not a party back home - and only a few are coming, then you can have a shower.
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  • zhazha1719zhazha1719
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you for all of the responses!
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