My FI's father is re-married & there is tension between his father's wife (of a 3 years) & his mom because the wife is talks & acts like he is her son. His mom gets very jealous. My mom & sister live out of state. It is very early (we are getting married in June 2013) but his father's wife asked to host a shower for me (via PINTEREST to show her style). It has now been decided (I think) that his two sisters will act as the hosts & will give out duties to all people. However, they wanted to have the shower at his father's associate clubhouse. My FI thinks this will be upsetting to his mother & really doesn't want us to have anything to do with our wedding at that location. He is going to help me delivery this message to his sister (again, I think). So now do should I give suggestions on where to have it? To also add to this drama, my sister & mom want to assist as they don't want to be the people that just show up. I don't know who to give their contact information too. UGH!!!! I really wanted this to be a simple affair (wedding & all). I hope this is not a sign of what is to come. Any suggestions on how to deal with in-law tension???