wedding shower gift/wedding gift help

Heather Wood

If someone is invited to the shower and they give a gift, then at the wedding are they going to give another gift? Or is the shower the time they give their wedding gift? I understand that gifts are not mandatory....I'm just an inquiring mind that couldn't find the answer on ask Carly. 

MairePoppy

I usually buy a gift from the registry for the shower and give a card with $$ for a wedding gift.

marissa_claire

Not everyone feels the same way about this issue.  Some guests will only give a gift for the shower, but I know that I personally would get a gift for both.  There's no way to really expect what people will do when it comes to gifting!

SuMmErKuTiE

Ditto MariePoppy, I usually bring a gift off the registry to the bridal shower and give cash at the wedding.

Most of the women who attended my bridal shower and brought a gift off the registry to that, gave $$ as a gift at the wedding, but one of my aunts and a few others gave a gift off the registry at the wedding as well.

Heather Wood

Thank you all so much for your responses 

SaraAndrew2010

This is something that I've heard varies by area or social circle.

I tend to give a medium-sized shower gift and a larger wedding gift.

Some people give a physical gift for the shower and then tend to give cash for the wedding.

I've heard of some circles where it's customary to give a very large shower gift and then give a small or no wedding gift, but this is not common in my crowd.

kayleighe

Wedding etiquette standards say you have up until a year after the wedding to give a gift, so you may even get some gifts after the wedding. But with online registries people don't really do that anymore... just old people.

I like to do a big gift at the shower and a small gift (sent to their HOME, not brought to the wedding!) for the wedding, but if I'm part of the wedding I only do a shower gift.

It's going to be different with everyone, especially by region!

mysticl

I do a gift for both with the shower gift usually being smaller. 

LiaAli

I do a gift off the registry for the shower and a cash gift for the wedding.

Kristin789

>>I give something small off the registry for the shower (like baking pans) and something larger for the wedding (such as place setting of their china).

This.

Unless the shower is a BRIDAL shower instead of a WEDDING shower.  In the case of a BRIDAL shower, the gifts are just for the bride, like perfume or a nice sweater or a divider thing for her car trunk or a chck-lit book.  And then the wedding present would be something for the COUPLE off of the registry.