Inviting pregnant friend to shower

ali585

One of my friends is pregnant and her baby is due the same week as my bridal shower. She lives in Chicago; shower will be in Washington, D.C. Should my shower hosts send her an invite? I don't want her to feel excluded (I'm inviting all of our mutual girlfriends), but I don't want to send her an invite when it's clear she won't be able to make it. Would an invite be a thoughtful gesture to let her know I would have wanted her there? I'm worried the message will come across as, "Here's an invitation. You clearly can't make it, but send me a gift, please!"

Thoughts? She and I were close in college, but we're not super close anymore. She is invited to the wedding too, of course!

mcskatcat

I think she would still appreciate the gesture. My guest list included some folks that I was fairly certain weren't able to come, but I wanted them to know that they are that close to me. 

And I don't think most people will send a gift to the shower if they can't make it, unless they really want to.  I know with weddings, I'll usually send a gift if I can't go, but with showers it just depends on the person and the situation.  I don't think people feel obligated to send a gift just because they're invited, though. 

Simply Fated

It's much worse to not get invited at all. An invitation says, "I want you there."

Hilraythebride

I would still send her the invite so she feels included, even though she obviously can't come since her due date is so soon plus its OOT.  I don't think it is being grabby and expecting a gift especially if you are good friends.

FaithCaitlin

Definitely still send an invite.