My fiance and I grew up in different cities, and are currently living in different cities, and for our wedding we decided to have a destination wedding (better to inconvenience all then a few, right? Lol). When looking at the guest list my fiance has a large family on his father's side, and my future mother-in-law is pretty sure that most all of them will not make it due to travel expenses. So she has asked me if she can host a reception-type get together for anyone from their home town that will not be able to make it to the wedding.
I graduate from grad school two weeks before the wedding, and start work 2 weeks after the wedding and honeymoon. We are also moving to a new city in this month, so my fiance and I feel very strongly that there is no time immediately before or after to have this reception-type gathering therefore the options are a shower a couple months before or a 2nd reception a couple months after.
What do you girls think?? Of note: we are not having any engagement parties or wedding showers because we are in different cities (I study and he works). So a shower might be alternative, but my mother-in-law keeps implying that she wants those that don't make it to the wedding to treat this as their celebration of our wedding and she wants to stress the importance of honoring us and having presents. (In other words she is afraid people will blow off a "shower" and she wants wedding gifts from them.)
Thoughts? Suggestions??
Thanks!