Pre-wedding Parties

Tacky or Acceptable? PLS Help

Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner for WP. Feeling badly because we have a lot of out of town family and friends that will be "left out" of pre wedding celebration. REALLY love to include everyone but due to budget, having a hard time figuring out the best way.

Bride & Groom would like everyone to meet up @ the restaurant afterwards so they can hangout with their friends in that area of town.

Would it be out of line or tacky to send out an announcement of where we will be and love for them to join us, we'll pay for a drink but dinner is dutch treat?
Or any other suggestions? Like "Meet us for dessert and if you'd like to join us for dinner, let us know and we'll add you to the list, dinner cost is $..per person
Any suggestions or advice?  Much Appreciated!

Re: Tacky or Acceptable? PLS Help

  • If you want people to pay for themselves, I wouldn't send out a formal invite--they would expect you to host them.  You could let people know, by word of mouth, that the B&G will be at X restaurant between Y and Z time, and that people are welcome to join them if they wish.  In that case, I would probably expect to pay for myself. 
  • Spreading by word of mouth is the way to go.  
  • Thanks All! I really appreciate the advice.  I too haven't heard of a pre wedding party until recently.
    However, feeling a bit guilty bc Best Man is brother of Groom, out of town and under age so - no bachelor party. 
    Since we are parents of the G feel like we are slighting him in some way. Not that he expects it at all.
    Personally, I'd rather take the money and give it to B&G and help them with HM.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_tacky-or-acceptable-pls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:9eed5291-8c06-4409-aef1-0035bcf32851Post:55360b67-f813-4ae6-89d3-136ba91c2bf2">Re: Tacky or Acceptable? PLS Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]Follow the advice above.  Don't feel guilty that you can't invite everyone else to the RD. That is not a tradition, and nobody expects it.  I didn't know other people did this at all until The Knot, and I'm 48.  Sounds kind of like having two receptions!
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
    <span style="font-family:Arial;background-color:#ffffff;">Thanks All! I really appreciate the advice.  I too haven't heard of a pre wedding party until recently.</span><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;border-image:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">However, feeling a bit guilty bc Best Man is brother of Groom, out of town and under age so - no bachelor party. </div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;border-image:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">Since we are parents of the G feel like we are slighting him in some way. Not that he expects it at all.</div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;border-image:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">Personally, I'd rather take the money and give it to B&G and help them with HM.</div>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_tacky-or-acceptable-pls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:9eed5291-8c06-4409-aef1-0035bcf32851Post:0035e30c-8f3a-41f2-a9dc-7b478aec4bb5">Re: Tacky or Acceptable? PLS Help</a>:
    [QUOTE]He can still have a bachelor party. BPs don't have to be drunkfests.  Go for a morning of golf, an afternoon at an amusement park, an evening of bowling, a football game - what else do the guys like to do? 
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
    Thanks again! You have been most helpful!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
  • My Cousin had a rehersal dinner for just family & wedding party. Then moved to another location where everyone could join in and didn't send out formal invites for the latter since they wern't hosting it for the whole time... HOWEVER they did set it up with the bar that had 2 rooms that they would decorate the 2nd smaller room and set up a hoast bar for the first hour which my cousin did pay for and had some sodas & lemonaid set up for those that didn't want to drink... That went over well because people didn't expect anything and everyone got to hang out and have fun. 

    We have no wedding party and are inviting anyone who wants to come. We are renting out a movie theater, ($300), and showing an old black & white movie that goes along with our art deco/art nouveau wedding. The theater is also letting us bring in our own food which should be great.
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