guest list for bridal shower

twixinthemix

Hi everyone!

My MOH and my aunt are going to be co-hosting a bridal shower for me, yay!  MOH lives out of state and would have a hard time planning from 5 hours away in a city she's only been in once, and my aunt loves doing these kind of things, so I'm really happy they'll be working together.  While I obviously don't plan the shower, they did ask for a guest list.  Here's where I'm stuck.  

When FI's brother got married this past November, his family hosted a bridal shower for FSIL.  While I'm guessing they'll throw one for me, I can't assume they will and I'm not going to go ask FMIL of course since that'd be bad etiquette.  I  have 5 months before my wedding so I know there's plenty of time.  

Do I invite FMIL and all of his sisters and step sisters or his aunts (who are the most darling women ever btw!!) to the shower my MOH/Aunt are planning?   Would that be awkward if they were planning on hosting their own shower for me?  Is it normal for family members and future family members to be invited to multiple showers?  I've only been to two showers in my life, so I don't know what's traditional.

Thanks all!

SuMmErKuTiE

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_guest-list-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:a3dac339-7d95-4d63-a938-e0dee00db0dePost:9df90689-6b05-41df-9f71-5eed5bf1428c">Re: guest list for bridal shower</a>:
[QUOTE]Proceed as if they weren't throwing a shower, since you don't know if they will. Ask the hostesses how many guests they're thinking about. Give them a list with that many names. You aren't required to invite relatives at all (keep it to friends if you wish) although the moms should be invited.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Ditto RetreadBride.

Most of the showers I've been to include the moms, grandmothers, and females close relatives of both the bride and groom. Also, the close friends of the bride. This could be an intimate party of 10-15 people or it could be a larger party of many more ladies. It all depends on how many your hosts can provide for at the party and how many the bride and groom feel are close enough to them to want to share in the event. . Definitely proceed with the guest list assuming your FMIL isn't throwing you a shower. Even if they do end up throwing you a shower, your FMIL may be hurt if she's not included in the shower that's already being planned.

lilcassers

Ditto. Proceed as if they weren't. You are over thinking this. Just give them a dang list

twixinthemix

I tend to overthink, haha.  It's not like I've ever done this before!  Thanks ladies.  I have a tentative list for my MOH and aunt so they have a basic idea of how many to plan for. Since it's not til March, I've got some time to give them actual names.