rehearsal dinner guest list

knottiecf0ef50555358e75

I'm trying to cut costs, but don't want to be rude to anyone. I heard that you should definitely allow your wedding party to have guests to the wedding ( a couple of them are bringing same-sex friends as guests to keep them company for the wedding, so not a "date" in anyway for these straight friends of mine). Should we also invite their guest to the rehearsal dinner? It's a destination wedding for most, so they would be in town. The rehearsal dinner is pricey, since we thought the guest list would be small. Would it be unfair for others to be bringing their spouses but not invite the "friend-guests" of the wedding party?

banana468

If the friend guests are traveling out of town with the BP member then they should be on the guest list.  If they're in town people then IMO you don't need to invite them.

Think about it - would you want to leave your traveling companion or SO alone in a hotel room?  It's not cool to ask your WP to do it.

waltzingmatilda13

If they are invited to the wedding as a guest of someone in the WP they should be invited to the RD as well. 

pretzelgrrl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_rehearsal-dinner-guest-list-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:aa61a4c7-fb29-4422-afe0-e0514d2ab976Post:11a29c82-bc64-4fa2-b0e8-19fd13f3ff46">Re: rehearsal dinner guest list</a>:
[QUOTE]If the friend guests are traveling out of town with the BP member then they should be on the guest list.  If they're in town people then IMO you don't need to invite them. Think about it - would you want to leave your traveling companion or SO alone in a hotel room?  It's not cool to ask your WP to do it.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

Totally agree with this....if they are in town plus ones no need to invite but if they are boyfriend/girlfriends/engaged/married invite the SO

orangejess

I told my WP that my parents decided on the number for the RD and their SO are not really able to be included.  Most of them offered to pay for their date's dinner.  It's not really a right to be able to invite a guest to a RD where their SO doesn't even really have to be at the Rehearsal.

So, I don't think you HAVE to invite them, but if you have the budget, it's nice.