Long vent.. sorry! I just need to get this off my chest!
I'm probably overreacting, but I'm a little annoyed and put off by the bachelorette party situation.
I'm a bridesmaid. We are less than 5 weeks away from the wedding and less than 4 weeks away from the bachelorette party. There are 2 other bridesmaids and a MOH. We want to throw a bachelorette party for the bride. We have been open with her about it and told her we'd like some input from her. She wants it to be a weekend thing, not just a night and she wants it to be a destination. That's fine. We can do that.
She wants us to meet at her house. It's a 2 hour drive to get to her house for most of the bridesmaids. I work Saturday mornings and cannot get off the morning of the bachelorette party, because I'm already taking off for the wedding the following weekend. I made this clear to the other bridesmaids and the bride. The other bridesmaids have been very accomodating and suggesting we go somewhere that would be more of a halfway point. Since it will be the middle of the afternoon by the time I can get to the bride's house, half of the day will be gone. Going somewhere in between would give us more time.
We threw out a lot of different ideas. The bride suggested a big city at one point, a beach at another... we came up with ideas that could be the city or the beach but it would be more convenient for us and just about the same distance and time driving from her house.... I should mention that the bride is from the same town I am from, another bridesmaid lives here too and the bride's parents still live here... the wedding will be here too. She will be spending majority of the last week or two before the wedding here and not at her new place. So, it's not like any of the locations we came up with would be inconvenient for her. She mentioned she wanted bars, we made sure to find those.. She mentioned possibly going pole dancing... so, we also found that too. So, we really have been trying to incorporate what she wants. We asked her to come up with a list of "must haves" and "wishes," so we could do our best to incorporate what she would like. She never made us a list though.
We told the bride the ideas we came up with. She came back to us and shot down pretty much everything we came up with. She told us there are 2 things she'd be up for. 1. Meet at her house... wait for me to get there... then drive 2 hours to the beach (we suggested a few beaches that were 2 hours for all of us to drive to from where we live. Instead of driving 2 hours to her house and then 2 more to the beach). We'd get to the beach in the evening, grab dinner, shop, go to the boardwalk and a bar. We'd stay at a hotel that night, go to the beach in the morning from around 9-noon, grab a quick lunch then go back to her house to hang out. 2. We drive to her house, hang out there for the weekend, go to dinner, walk around town and then go to a bar, then hang out at her house.
I wouldn't mind going to the beach, but I think it's a little excessive for the majority of use to be driving 4 hours to get to the beach for less than 24 hours when we can go to a beach that's closer for the majority of us and we'd be able to spend more time there.
Idea #2 isn't bad, but I don't feel she should be hosting us at her house if this party is supposed to be in her honor. The MOH offered to host us at her apartment, but the bride turned that down.
I guess, I'm just annoyed that we are supposed to be planning this party for her but she is being fairly picky about where and what we do. The other bridesmaids will do whatever she wants. They want her to be happy and of course, I do too, but I'm just annoyed by how this is going. I think we should be planning this for her, take into account what she wants but not let her control the whole thing. Maybe I'm just overreacting.
Sorry this is really long. I just needed to vent more than anything!