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mikeynkrib2011
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Two weeks enough notice for a shower invite?
So, with the holidays rolling around my mom and FMIL had their plate full, as expected! They are planning my shower for 1/30/2010 because both families are available that weekend. But because they got so busy they didn't have time to check out the places and book a spot.
Since they won't have time to check out another place till next week, invites won't go out until about two weeks prior.
My mom was wondering if this is too late? My thoughts were just push back the shower a week if so, but I really think 2 weeks notice is ok.... although according to 'etiquette' it isn't ideal.
Thoughts?
Since they won't have time to check out another place till next week, invites won't go out until about two weeks prior.
My mom was wondering if this is too late? My thoughts were just push back the shower a week if so, but I really think 2 weeks notice is ok.... although according to 'etiquette' it isn't ideal.
Thoughts?
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Re: Two weeks enough notice for a shower invite?
[QUOTE]I think it might be too late for some people. Some people need at least two weeks to take a day off from work.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
hmmmmm, good point. hey can i ask you this too....do we really have to send out invites for the rehearsal dinner? is it terrible to just invite by word of mouth?
Shower invitations sent with two weeks notice: That's fine.
RD invitations: Yeah, most MOG's insist on creating wonderful RD invitations, and planning and hosting a wonderful dinner party. My friend B told her FI's mother that B wanted to have a Mexican dinner party, and sent FI's mother two sample templates showing the kind of border and font that B would like. FI's mother told B in no uncertain terms that SHE, FI'S MOTHER, had planned MANY dinner parties and that SHE, FI'S MOTHER, could certainly handle planning THIS dinner party which would be hosted by HER, FI'S MOTHER and FI'S FATHER. So my advice to you is to NOT get in the way of your FI's mother on the RD. Just let her host the wonderful party for you...
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[QUOTE]Shower invitations sent with two weeks notice: That's fine. RD invitations: Yeah, most MOG's insist on creating wonderful RD invitations, and planning and hosting a wonderful dinner party. My friend B told her FI's mother that B wanted to have a Mexican dinner party, and sent FI's mother two sample templates showing the kind of border and font that B would like. FI's mother told B in no uncertain terms that SHE, FI'S MOTHER, had planned MANY dinner parties and that SHE, FI'S MOTHER, could certainly handle planning THIS dinner party which would be hosted by HER, FI'S MOTHER and FI'S FATHER. So my advice to you is to NOT get in the way of your FI's mother on the RD. Just let her host the wonderful party for you...
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
uh oh, so my FI and I must be terds for hosting our own RD? we just have people from out of town coming in and wanted them to be fed. So we're having pizza, salad and breadsticks at my FI's brothers after the church rehearsal.
Should we not call it a RD? And just say "come on over for dinner?"
Your pizza party sounds fine and very convenient for your RD guests. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and fi hosting your own RD, since it is a thank you to your wedding party for participating. Formal invitations are not a requirement as long as you are able to give everyone the details before hand. If phone or email is the most efficient way for you to do it, that's okay.
[QUOTE]<strong>Since your shower is on a Sunday (I'm assuming you meant 1/30/20 11 ), I wouldn't worry about people having to take off work. </strong>2 - 4 weeks is the perfect amount of time beforehand. When I was a bridesmaid we sent them about 3 weeks ahead, and that was just perfect. You don't want to give people too much time before the event, just as you don't want to give them too little. 1 week's notice wouldn't be enough, but I think you'll be ok with 2 weeks. If you're worried, maybe you can give the hostess the emails of all the people who will be invited and she can send them an e-invite just for the date and let them know the formal invitations will be in the mail as soon as they have the location locked down.
Posted by LoveMuffins[/QUOTE]
Oh, I was speaking from personal experience. Both my fiance and I and most of our friends and family work weekends.
But it all depends on who is on your guests list lol.
I was never given an actual invitation to a RD, either. Just WOM. :)
RD: It is 100% okay that you are hosting. As for invites, no you don't have to do formal invitations but please give them warning. Call, text, email whatever but let them know what is going on.
I was in a wedding once and the bride and groom planned a brunch and gift opening for the Sunday after the wedding but none of the wedding party was told about it until the rehersal the night before the wedding. A lot of us had made other plans or had travel plans set to leave. Inform your wedding party!!
Also, maybe I'm a little different from everyone else, but I have been a bridesmaid more times than I can remember and I think I have had a formal invitation to every single rehearsal dinner (and it's not a regional thing - I've been in weddings in the South, the Midwest, and on the East Coast). That said, I certainly don't think they are mandatory - whatever the person(s) hosting want to do works. So if word of mouth is your style, go for it.
[QUOTE]The people who really want to be there- and likely the ones you really want to be there- will be there.
Posted by TamiFaith[/QUOTE]
<div>As long as they can make it. Even people who would love to be there might not be able to if they have a previous engagement and can't get out of it. I think 2 weeks is a bit too short of notice. Plus, with the sudden cost (ie: for a gift) you want to be considerate of people's budgets - money tends to be tight a few weeks after Christmas, for example. </div>
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