Don't want to step on MOH toes...Advice?

beezybaby

One of my best friends is getting married in a little under a year.  I know that it is early to begin planning a bridal shower, but I live out of the country, and want to do everything possible to be able to attend pre wedding events.  I am going to be back in the states for 4 months to have a baby this winter, and I was thinking maybe we could do a shower then.  My friend grew up in IL but lives in Colorado where I'm from, and the MOH is a childhood friend from IL, so I was thinking maybe she would throw her a shower in their home town and I could throw the Colorado shower when I'm home to have the baby.  HOWEVER!  I would NEVER suggest to the MOH where or when she hosts a shower, I just want to let her know that I would LOVE to throw a shower in Colorado IF she wasn't planning to.  Is this ok?  How can I do it with out overstepping my bounds?  

yoko2011

I think it is awesome you want to do something where she lives  and one should never presume the other bp members will host a shower. I think you could even mention it to the bride, but if you're trying to avoid ruffling feathers, you could e-mail the moh or bp.

I.e. "Hi, I'm not sure if the pb is planning any festivities and if it'll be local to family in IL. Several of us here are so excited for x we'd like to do something in CO since we're not sure we'd get to travel for prewedding festivities. I'll be in town from x to x and I'm happy to host something here. Please let me know what you think. I look forward to hearing from you and meeting you at the wedding, next time in town, (what ever applies)."

HTH

CarolinaMiss

I'm definitely in agreement about sending an email to all women in bp (I would also include mom and FMIL for good measure).  Give dates you'll be arriving, other pertinent info, etc as sort of a friendly planning tool.  Such a good friend you are for putting all of this thought into making sure your friend feels special while you are going through a busy time in your life.