Pre-wedding Parties

Rehearsal Dinner is giving me an ulcer

Help, the rehearsal dinner is overwhelming me!  My FI's father has offered to host it, but has left much of the planning up to my father and I.  We originally had planned to have 40 guests including the wedding party + their dates (12), his family (12), my family (12), and some friends that have taken time off of work to stay with us and help with the wedding (4).  We were planning to reserve a local restaurant with a limited menu and entrees $8-$12 per person.  However, my step-father just let me know that my late mother's family would like to be included as well, as they rarely see me and want to spend time with me.  I don't feel I can say no to them, but this brings the guest list at the rehearsal dinner to almost 50, half the size of the wedding guest list!  This would be too large of a party to have at the restaurant, they don't have that many seats!  I am also concerned about how much it will cost FI's parents, and even at $10 a head it would be upwards of $500 with tip.  

What are some options for less-expensive ways to feed a crowd?  We could host a dinner outside where we will be having the wedding and bring over enough tables and chairs from the reception site.  I don't want it to be too much work doing food-prep, as we will be preparing food for the wedding.  What low-cost, low-effort options are there?  

Re: Rehearsal Dinner is giving me an ulcer

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    edited December 2011
    Pizza : )

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    niecie_jeffniecie_jeff member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree w/PP, pizza :)
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    edited December 2011
    Pizza, soda and beer is a good way to go.  That's what my brother's RD is supposed to be.

    Or you could do a backyard BBQ type of thing.
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    edited December 2011
    Did your FI's Father give you a budget? If he's hosting the event then he gets to choose who is invited. And unless he has given you a price to stick to, I wouldn't worry too much about adding another 10 people to the guest list.

    If he did give you a budget then I'd do a backyard BBQ type of party, although, it may cost about the same.

    $10/person seems like a reasonable price for a rehearsal dinner. I will be having about the same amount of people at our rehearsal dinner and we're hoping to spend less than $30/person!
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    LauraleeMarcLauraleeMarc member
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    edited December 2011

    We're doing a fish fry! We'll be having about fifty guests too, which is about half the size or more of my wedding guest list too. It will be cheap enough. I agree with PP, though; were you given a budget?
    Don't stress and keep open communication with your FFIL.

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    sklink0486sklink0486 member
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    edited December 2011
    Besides pizza or outdoor BBQ or maybe sub sandwiches, I don't know anything that would be cheaper than $10/person. I would talk to him about it and see how much he is planning on spending total. As far as your other family members being invited, you will see them at the wedding....
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