Bridal Shower

caramelkyss1218

My friends decided to have a bridal shower for me since my family and bridal party do not live in the area.  I asked my soon to be mother-in-law 3 weeks ago to go with me. When I asked her yesterday if she is still going, she tells me no and she will leave that for the younger crowd.  Women of all ages will be there.  If I was going to shopping at Macys, she would have beat me to the car.  I am not going to beg her to go.  Should I feel slighted?  How would you feel?
 

trix1223

Perhaps she's thinking you meant the b-party rather than a shower?

mysticl

If you asked her to go wtih you does that mean she didn't get an invitation from the hostess?  Maybe she feels like she isn't supposed to be there. 

Kristin789

Like the PP said, she probably didn't get an invitation from the host, and knows that if she goes, she is only going because you are shoving her into the event.

And maybe she's asked around about what bridal showers are like these days.  In some areas, the bridal shower is almost as sassy and crude as the bach party - with the bride opening gifts of lube and edible underwear and playing games that are pretty sexy like married women telling about the sex on their wedding night and single girls telling about the most recent sex they had, etc.

Whippet8

If she didn't get an invitation, she probably feels out of place.

awick14

I agree with pp's. If I didn't get an invite and I was the FMIL then I wouldn't want to go either. You just need to have a open conversation with her about it. and forgive her if she is just to uncomfortable to go.

SuMmErKuTiE

Ditto pp's she may not have received an invitation. I'd feel weird about attending too if that were me. Other than that, I don't see why she wouldn't want to attend her FDIL's shower. You should talk to her again, ask her if she even received an invite and go from there.