Rehersal Dinner. Going to pull my hair out

1BabyFritsch

So my dilemma is one that I truly feel we should not have. It is with who should be invited to a rehearsal dinner.

We have got it down to

Us and our son the ring bearer

My Parents

His Mom and Step Dad

His Dad (who is footing the bill alone)

His adopted parents

My Sister MOH

My niece Junior Brides maid, sister’s daughter

My Fiancée’ adopted sister Bridesmaid

My Other Niece Flower Girl, Also Sisters Daughter

His Best Man His adopted brother

2 Grooms men also adopted brothers

Our reader His last adopted brother

 

Our issue comes in here my sister has 2 other children who are not in the wedding but she is going thru a divorce and I feel like if she cannot bring them she will not come and in turn neither will my two nieces. I think we should allow them all to bring dates since his adopted brother s are almost all in committed relationships but not married. The one who is not will honestly probably not have a girlfriend at the time but my fiancée is worried he will just bring whoever.

We have talked to his dad about pricing and he has said he is not worried about the price since this is the only thing he is paying for (My parents and us are paying for everything else but the flowers which his adopted parents are paying for as our wedding gift). To put it in perspective we are talking a difference of 4 people. So roughly 100$

 

So my question is what do you do?

Invite inly bridal party and family

Invite bridal party family and allow my sisters kids to come

Allow dates ?

RaptorSLH

Significant others should be invited, as they are a social unit.  I don't know about your family, but in mine, inviting only some siblings would cause a significant spat, so I'm in favor of inviting them, too.  If it clears your concience, or if his dad balks once you decide, offer to pick up the extra.

scrpio421

Are there any other kids that will be upset they didn't get an invite?

We are not including dates of people that are not in committed relationships. We have a few groomsman that don't have girlfriends, they get dates if they choose to the wedding, but not to the RD.

I would agree with the PP, offer to pick up the remainder of the tab if it's a problem.

1BabyFritsch

No the only people who have chilldren are my sister and us. 2 of the groomsnam and the reader have been with there Girlfriends for a year up to 4 years. The only one without a serious girlfriend is one of the groomsman. But in all honestly he probably wont have one at that point either. My One other bridesmaid has a boyfriends of 5 years but he wont be in town at the time of the wedding so we already know he wont be there.

lenergyrlah

I'm confused about whether the sister's kids are in the wedding or not.  Are they invited to the rehearsal?  I don't see any reason to invite them to the RD if they aren't in the wedding unless your sister is visiting from out of town.

Rereading, it looks like the sisters kids are a bridesmaid and a flower girl.  If so, they should definitely be invited to the RD.

1BabyFritsch

The problem is my sister is a single mom and two of her 4 kids are in the wedding. Everyone she would normally use to watch the other 2 will be at the rehersal and rehersal Dinner.

lnl1025

If two of her 4 kids are in the wedding, you should invite the other two. Theyre a family unit. And your relatives. Its perfectly ok to invite them even tho they are not in the wedding. Just my opinion.