Let me start off by clarifying that my FMIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner and my FI and I are not contributing financially. That being said, the dinner will be a three course meal with a salad, entree and dessert. In order to serve desserts, we have to forgo serving wine to the guests with an Italian meal. There will be a cash bar available, but I can foresee some possible awkward situations if people would like to order a glass of wine with their meal, only to be charged for it later. We are having an open bar at the wedding, but I sort of feel like the same rules should apply to the rehearsal dinner-after all, we are asking people to go out of there way to attend the rehearsal and dinner on a Friday night. Since there will be so much rich food and a choice of wedding cake and a groom's cake for the wedding (not to mention that my BMs will have had cake at the Bridesmaids' luncheon earlier that day), I feel like people would rather have wine than a dessert. Since we are not paying for the meal, I guess we don't really have a say. Any thoughts? Am I being too picky?