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Pre-wedding Parties

Non- traditional shower ideas

Looking for some ideas for what will be a pretty non-traditional shower.  My sister is having a destination wedding in May, she lives in Nova Scotia with her fiance, and our family is all here in Ontario. She is coming "home" at the end of September and I'd like to throw her bridal shower at that time as she won't be back before their big day next year (early I know but it is now or nothing).  While only immediate family is invited to the ceremony (no aunts, uncles, cousins), they are having a post wedding party back here next summer.  While I agree under normal circumstances it is tacky to ask for gift cards or money, minimal bulky gifts are best for her as she will be flying back to Nova Scotia, and they are currently living with BIL's family while he finishes school.  I suggested she could "register" for their honeymoon (I guess many couples do this these days for their wedding?) or even a few wedding- related expenses? But no matter what she registers for, there will be a lot of people who understand her travelling plans who will choose not to buy something large or to buy and ship it directly her her back in NS.
I'm looking for a fun and unique shower theme or idea to take away from the gift opening portion of the shower.  I know it is normally poor etiquette to invite those to the shower, who are not attending the wedding. It's not so much about gifts for her,  this is more a chance to celebrate my sis's upcoming wedding with the ladies in the family and a few close friends (most of which will not be attending the wedding, but all will be attending the post-party). 
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!

Re: Non- traditional shower ideas

  • Unfortunately showers are for physical gifts.  My BMs & family are throwing me a shower in IA (I live in CA).  The local store I just registered for lightweight and small things that can fit in a suitcase.  Having a shower and requesting just money is kind of tacky.  If it's not about gifts, then don't call it a shower, and have a bridal luncheon instead.

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  • I was actually thinking about not calling it a shower, but I know that family will ask me anyhow what she would like...and I know that some will just give money or gift cards without asking in order to not burden her with having to pack or ship the items.

    No matter what title I put on it, I'm looking for ideas to make it a fun event that is not just centered around gifting.  It will be on a the last Saturday in September.

    Thanks!
  • I would just nix this idea for the reasons already mentioned.
     
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  • Just call it a bridal luncheon or prewedding party.  Make it clear it's about celebrating her future marriage with friends rather than getting gifts. If people ask what she would like, say that any contributions toward her honeymoon would be welcome. Otherwise don't mention gifts at all.
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