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Wedding Shower Guests?

sunshine0892sunshine0892
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Hey All!

I'm getting so stressed out about this shower guest list!

My bestfriend and mom want to through a male/female wedding shower for us, but the problem is I'm have a very small private ceremony.  Who do I invite to a shower????  I know the etiquette is normally only people invited to ceremony....so now I'm stuck.  I don't want people to feel like I'm being gift greedy!  I could really care less about the gifts.

What shall I do???
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    calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    You should decline the shower. The tradeoff to having a small, intimate wedding is that you can only have very small or no prewedding parties. Even if your goal is not the gifts, there is no way to make inviting non wedding guests to a shower not look gift grabby.
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    Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    Yes, you need to decline the shower because it's poor etiquette to invite people to the shower and not the wedding.
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    kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited July 2012
    Ditto the others.  If you don't decline the shower you WILL offend your guests and  you WILL come off as gift grabby.
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