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More than one shower....how does this work??

awilliam1awilliam1 member
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I am a little confused about this whole situation.  I started planning my own shower early on. I know its supposed to be MOH and family planning it, but my mom died and I am an only child, so I have just sort of gotten used to doing things on my own.  My MOH is going to take care of details, etc. when it gets closer, but now some family from my dad's side have said they are planning on throwing me a "family shower".  What does that mean? Do I not invite them to the shower I have already started planning? I don't want them to feel like they have to come to two showers and buy two gifts, etc.  And does this "family shower only consist of that side and not my FI's family? I am happy they want to be involved, but I am just not sure how to handle all of it. 
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Re: More than one shower....how does this work??

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    It looks like you jumped the gun by planning your own shower. You should forget about the shower you have been planning and be happy with the shower that your family wants to give you.

    If you want to know who they are including on their guest list, you should ask them. Remember, you shouldn't invite anyone to a shower, unless they are on the wedding guest list, also.
                       
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with Maire.  Drop the shower you were planning, and ask them if they need a guest list from you, and if so, how many guests they are planning to accommodate.

    I'm having three showers - one my mom's side of the family, one my dad's side of the family (divorced) and the third will be local to me and will be my FI's side of the family.  A couple people - moms, and bridesmaids, and sisters-in-law - will be invited to multiple showers, but no other guests should be invited to more than one.
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
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    edited December 2011
    First, I'm very sorry about your mom.

    Showers are not a given, so you shouldn't plan your own, especially since your ILS graciously offered to throw you one. (By the way, you can definitely invite your family to the shower his family throws).

    So drop the shower you're planning. If your MOH still wants to throw it on her own, then you can invite your extended (or some of your friends) to the shower she throws and his family to the one hfamily is family throws.

    Don't invite anyone to both except bridesmaids and MOH and his mom and grandma. They don't all have to come to both, but it's a courtesy to invite them.
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  • ManachannManachann
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    edited December 2011
    I know I'm having two showers. One is more for the family and older ladies from church.
    and the other is more for my friends. I have some pretty wild friends. I'd be scared to open gifts from my friends around my mother. She'd have a heartattack. lol
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