How early is TOO early for a shower or bachlorette party?

DylansBride77

I'm getting married right after the holidays - Feb 25th.  My mom is throwing my shower since my MOH (my sister) can't afford to, plus lives two states away.  She wants to do in October and even possibly combine a fall or halloween theme.  I say it's a little too early.  What do you gals think?

Kfmarried

Mine was a little over a month before our wedding due to my sister (BM) living in Vegas and my best friend (MOH) living in NorCal.  The only time they could get everyone together was Easter weekend. 

I agree that fall seems a little too early, but it's not unheard of.  I think it's nicer when they are closer to the wedding because it really gets everyone in the swing of things so to speak. 

DylansBride77

Yeah I agree.  I threw out January 21st as a suggestion... we'll see if she goes for it.  That is still a month before the wedding and almost a month after Christmas.

SuMmErKuTiE

My bridal shower was 5 weeks before the wedding and my bachelorette was 3 weeks before the wedding. I think anytime within 2 months before is the norm, and October may be a bit too early, but if that's the only time that works for everyone then it's not a huge deal.

Hellokatie0517

My shower was 3 months before.  I hear from my MOH she wants to do the bach party in October, so a month before.  I don't consider February to be "right after the holidays".  I think if your mom plans the shower in mid-January then you should be OK.

LoveMuffins

My Bridal Shower was in June, about 4 months before the wedding, and my bachlorette party is the week before the wedding. That's when it was the best times for the hosts to throw it, so I don't see anything wrong with your mom doing it that early if that's when she wants to host it.

hvansaders

I dont think there is anything wrong with having it in October.  If it makes you feel any better my shower is at the end of November, but I have a June 2012 wedding.  Its just when it worked out best because my mom who is hosting travels in the spring.  Everyone's situation is different so it isnt a big deal at all.

blush64

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[QUOTE]I'm getting married right after the holidays - Feb 25th.  My mom is throwing my shower since my MOH (my sister) can't afford to, plus lives two states away.  She wants to do in October and even possibly combine a fall or halloween theme.  I say it's a little too early.  What do you gals think?
Posted by DylansBride77[/QUOTE]

I am getting married February 4th and my shower will be in October. Due to the holidays and different family matters it just worked out that way. At first I also thought it was too early but now I am used to it.
 
I think it's fine. As other PP have said, it just depends on what works for you and the people hosting. (as far as timing)

yoko2011

My wedding is at the end of Sept. and my shower with college friends was in March - only time MOH could do it since she couldn't travel until the wedding. Really early but everyone knew circumstances and it was fine.

teacup0618

My shower was about 2 and a half months before the wedding, and our bach party is next weekend, which is a week before the wedding. I would rather of had our bach party 2 weeks before the wedding, but it is more convenient for everyone to be able to come the week before.

awarm014

As long as the people who need to be there will be there, it is ok. Normal time frame is about 2 months for a shower. It is important tho, that it isn't just convienent for the MOH instead of the guests. That almost happened with mine. I didn't vote because I don't know when mine is. 

TwoByTwilight

October is pretty early even though I loooove the Halloween idea- I am having a Halloween theme Bach party

I wanted my BS in the summer but it was 6 months before the wedding and we all know it was too early. Early-Mid January seems better- I understand how December could be "inconvenient" for people because of the holidays.

JCM10

I don't know if anyone's talked showers for me yet, but my Bachelorette party is going to be within a week or two of the wedding (getting married Jan 14, so after the holidays). My fiance's bachelor party is this weekend, though, because that's when all his groomsmen could come (they're in grad schools and the military, so they're all over the place, and they want to do it before school starts). It really doesn't matter when you have them.

futuremrsgamboa

Mine is scheduled for 6 weeks before the wedding. I wanted to make it as close to it as possible so I'm not stuck with all the gifts for months without being able to use them (I'm not moving out till the wedding). But I also didn't want it too close to it cause I don't want people to stress over getting a shower gift then a wedding gift right after.

songbirdz

I had a friend get married this past weekend and she had her shower back in march.  She said it was the best idea every because it got it out of the way and she could concentrate on other tasks and buying a house at the same time. Whenever it works for you will be the right time.

kbarnes37

My bridal shower will be this coming November and my wedding will be in April of next year.  The majority of my close friends, bridal party and family are out of town and November is the best time that we all could be in one place at one time before the actual wedding month.   
I think that the timing should just be based on what works for you and the people involved in hosting your shower.  I am sooooo excited to see everyone before the "big day" and spend time with the people I love before the craziness of the "big day" is really upon us in full force!

blue1981

I think it is pretty early, but if that is when she wants to throw it and if you are comfortable then it is not a big deal.