Pre-wedding Parties

How to politely decline an offer to host a shower

My fiance and I are having a small wedding, and the shower guest list would be 15 people at most (including out of town people that likely will not be able to attend).  My stepmom asked me awhile ago if she could host a bridal shower, and because I know it's important to her to feel involved, I gratefully accepted.  Now a close friend of mine emailed and asked if she could throw me a shower.  I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't think there is a large enough guest list to do two showers, and my stepmom would be hurt if she wasn't able to host.  How do I politely decline?  I could ask her if she would be interested in hosting a bachelorette party instead?  Thoughts?

Re: How to politely decline an offer to host a shower

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    trix1223trix1223 member
    5 Love Its Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    "Thank you so much for offering.  It's lovely of you, but my step-mom has already offered to host a shower, so I'm going to have to decline your generous offer."

    And it's not really appropriate for you to suggest something else.  If she offers to throw the b-party, then you can accept her offer.  But you really shouldn't suggest it.

    Good luck to you.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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