He's getting a bachelor party, I'm getting nothing

pourprenoir

My fiancee has wonderful friends. They all have families, live far apart from each other, but they are setting aside an additional weekend (counting the weekend of the wedding) to plan him a nice respectful bachelor partying. They are going to a football game, tailgating before, and having a night out after, complete with a hotel room they'll share. He is planning and paying for none of it.

I, on the other hand, am getting nothing. My MOH forgot she promised to throw me a shower, and she's on a vacation for 2 weeks, and returns just 2 weeks before the wedding. She told me she planned her own shower, and I considered briefly planning it myself, but I honestly am not feeling terribly loved and feel like no one will even show up. One of my best friends is having a lot of family drama of her own, and may not even come to the wedding. My mother is not in the picture to throw it for me, so that's not an option either.

I'm happy that my fiancee has such great friends that are going all out for him, but I'm feel extremely rejected and bad that my friends suck. Any tips on shaking this, or should I be hinting to someone that no one seems to be putting a shower together for me. :'-(

MairePoppy

I'm sorry you are disappointed.

Your friends are not bad, though, just because they weren't able or willing to throw a party for you. It doesn't mean they don't love you.

You can't plan your own shower or bp, but you could still organize a ladies night out or in. Call a few of your friends and say "Fi's bp is this weekend, would you like to go out for dinner, drinks, mani-pedis (or whatever it is that your friends like to do) Saturday night." That way, you're not sitting home feeling sorry for yourself.

yoshijo

I agree, try to organize a girl's night out (or in). That way you will still get the bonding time that you want but you won't be throwing your own party.