Hi Ladies,
Before I start- my FI and I live in Philadelphia, my parents are 6 hours away in NY and my FIL's are 5 hours in western PA. Our parents have never met. I have 3 BM's, two are friends but have never met the 3rd BM. They all live several hours away from me and each other.
The day my FI and I got engaged my mom offered to throw us an Eparty- I think she offered out of excitement because I know she HATES throwing parties. After the first week of discussing the party with my mom I decided it was too stressful and told my her not to throw me a party (she was relieved). We also told my MIL my mother wouldn't be throwing an Eparty. (She also seemed relieved- she kept complaining about "babysitting" grandma for the weekend in NY and she kept telling us we didn't "have to" invite his aunts and uncles etc.)
After we told my mom she didn't need to throw us an Eparty I was explaining to one my BM's the situation. She immediately offered to throw us a party as long as she could throw it at our house in Philly (we have a big house and my BM's all have apartments so it makes sense.)
Anyway now we are having a hard time picking a date for the Eparty. My BM's are all several hours away and in other weddings/working etc.
I kinda feel like the Eparty is a lost cause/too much of a hassle. I mean I'd love to have one, I know if my mom doesn't have to plan it she'd enjoy it too- just seems like a big pain in the butt! Because my BM's haven't all met I'm communicating between them all and I feel like I'm imposing even though it wasn't my idea to have it in the first place.
Any advice?