Engagement Party

jannabananax17

I wanna throw an engagement party-

before anyone says I shouldn't throw one for myself, I know, I read all the other posts.

but I do want it to be a time for people to get to know each other! A small casual get together with my family, my fiance's family and the wedding party/really close friends only. During this party I also wanted to tell my friends that they are in the wedding party..

so yeah.. I feel like, throwing an "engagement party", as a bride, already sounds bad.. but is there another way I can name/describe this type of party?

hlq2011

Call it a party, not an engagement party.  That''s all.  It doesn't have to have a label.

And may I suggest asking your friends one-on-one, so that if they feel they can't be in the wedding party, for whatever reason, they aren't put on the spot and will feel able to decline?  If you ask everyone as a group, it can be difficult for someone to say no if they can't make the commitment.

rknox88

Just host a normal party-don't call it an Engagement Party. The reason you should throw yourself an E-Party is because many people see it as a gift giving occasion so you would potentially look gift grabby. If you throw just a general party the most someone will bring is a hostess gift which is perfectly appropriate.

I agree with PP that  you should ask friends you want in you BP privately so as not to add presure to participate if for some reason the can't/don't want to.

jannabananax17

Thanks for the advice about asking the wedding party individually/privately. I didn't think about that!!

deepcovejackie

I agree with pp's.  Just call it a party.  An "engagement party" means you're throwing a party in honour of yourself.

Also yes, ask each WP member separately.