So my future sister-in-law wants to throw me a "welcome to the family" luncheon. I am really excited about this idea. She indicated that she will probably indicate on the invite that it is "gift optional". I do NOT want to seem like I want gifts, but she said she knows my future mother-in-law will have a gift for me to open. I feel like that's a bit in poor taste to indicate it's gift optional, and then make sure she is giving a gift. They said the gift thing is up to me...I really think it shouldn't be up to me, they should decide, but I'm feeling conflicted about "gift optional" and how this would make other people feel if they showed up without a gift and everyone else did. This will be a small gathering (8 people).
Should I just stay out of it and let them do whatever they want or should I say something?