Who's Here?

MeaganR12

Talk to me.

How was everyone's weekend????

Nati05

Me! But I shouldn't be. I'm supposed to be attempting to sleep so that I won't walk around like a zombie at work all tomorrow morning haha. My sleep schedule this weekend just screwed everything up for me! Not that I did anything incredibly exciting, but FI and I just stayed up late. How about yours?

MeaganR12

lol it's 7:40 here, it's so weird being on such a different time zone than everyone else.

Our weekend was good, my mom took engagement pictures of us in Napa yesterday. She's been paid for wedding photography before but I didn't expect much because I'm overly critical of people. But she did SUCH a good job! Can't wait to post some of them.

It was 75(!) here today so we went to the beach. In March. It was glorious. 

Nati05

I'm sure the time difference must be strange sometimes.. and annoying. It bugs me being just an hour off during daylight savings when I need to contact my mom or something... 3 would make me want to pull my hair out lol!

That's awesome about your mom's pictures! And having access to all the pictures you want from the shoot, unlike certain packages of hired photographers.

msbdumas

Hi girls ! I've been stalking you guys lol..I'm loving the new siggy challange ! My weekend has been very laid back...I am just about ready to go back to work from having my surgery, FI and I was looking online for a new venue for the ceremony and reception to be held at, we are bout ready to get back into planning mode (so geeked) ! So other than that I've just been peeking in on you guys seeing what you all are up too !

Elinetrouwt

Yeah, I'm here. We visited our families this weekend, both our dads had their birthdays.

It's snowing where I am.

Madisonpenny

It was good until I got the brainwave to call my mother and ask her about Mason jars. (Beware: vent up ahead)

I asked her if she had any mason jars because I need about 100 between favors and decor and asked her if I could have the ones she had or at least use them and give them back and this is our conversation from that point..

Her: "NO! do you know how expensive those are!?" 
Me: "yea, 0.68 cents each, I looked it up"
Her: "Oh"
Me: "yeah, know what, forget I asked, it"s fine"

and I hung up.  I'm pretty hurt that she doesn"t want to give them up because she thought they were expensive and not because she's using them, which FYI I know she's not because they've been sitting in the crawl space of her house for over 20 years.  I know she doesn't have to give them up regardless, but even to borrow?
She's offered no help, no suggestions, no encouragement, no nothing towards this wedding.  I've asked her for nothing until this point.  I thought she would at least (or more like hoped) she would at least let me borrow something of hers.  I've tried to stay away from the talk of the wedding because I always seem to get hurt in the end, but I thought this might have been a safe question.

When i asked her if she wanted to go wedding dress shopping with me, all she did was pout in the corner the whole time.
I bought a mother-daughter spa package and she wasted it.  She said she wasn't doing half the things included and only told me AFTER I had paid (paid for it a few weeks in advance)  and we got there and were waiting in the room.

We've always had a shaky relationship and I've really tried to do things with her but she's really making it hard.

I've been thinking for the past few months about whether I even want her there and I really don't but I have to invite her for my dads sake. I can already see it on our wedding day.....
She's going to be having a sour face and complaining the whole day UNTIL the ceremony starts, then she's going to slap a big smile on her face for appearances and pretend its the happiest day of her life.

End vent.

xobride

Oh madisonpenny, I'm so sorry she's being so ugly.  I know what you mean about keeping up appearances, the siblings from my adopted family are the same way.  I don't want to invite them either, but I have to and it will be the same thing.  Haven't seen them in 2 years, they refuse to even acknowledge me, but they'll come and eat and drink and pretend that we're best buds and they're so happy for me all to keep up appearances and take advantage of free food and alcohol.

All that to say that you're not alone and just try and focus on all the people there who really are happy for you, like your dad.  I know it's easier said than done, but it's my plan.  Not sure I'll pull it off, but it is my plan.

michelle11988

Oh Madison that's terrible to hear about your mother.  My mother is overly critical of everything I do but I've just learned to go along with it for the most part.  I usually just don't tell her until it's too late for her to criticize me enough to switch ideas.  

My weekend was really busy but I got to see a lot of my friends so that was good.  I wish I could have a 2 day weekend so I could actually relax.

LADY324

Can I just say that I am so jealous of you guys who live in California!!!  I think I would be much happier and always in a good mood if I lived somewhere warm all year long!!  Both of our families live in NJ and we are so close to them we could never leave it would break their hearts. 

FI loves loves SanDiego and would love to live there.

colleenm18

Lady I am with you! 

Both FI and my family live in PA and we are super close to both.  But if I could pick anywhere to live it would be San Deigo

msbdumas

Yes Meagan...I'm so excited and can't wait I'm revisioning the look I'm going for; for a early fall wedding !

bells24412

i want to live somewhere that it is nice all year round and no snow. I wouldn't miss snow for the world!

Madisson I am sorry to hear about you and your mom. I hope things get better.

We went for our tasting over the weekend, it was delicious!

littlemoments324

When people treat me like that they wouldn't be a part of my life regardless if they were family or not...I don't need that negative drama...they wouldn't deserve to be a part of my day...

Elinetrouwt

Madison, so sorry to  hear about the problems with your mother! You definitely don't need a poutyface on your big day. If you think that she'll pretend everything's fine when the ceremony starts, would it be possible to invite her only from that point on and not have her around for preparations?

This is so annoying, TK is being weird and I can't read half of the threads, like Happy monday and the QOTD. Can't wait for WTF wednesday.

MeaganR12

That really sucks, Madison. My advice normally would be to just stop talking about wedding stuff with her, but I know you've already pretty much done that, and it's your MOM for goodness sakes. 

And yes, the weather was glorious yesterday. When I think about how I would kill for a white Christmas, I'll remember 75 in March, haha

Nati05

Can I just say I totally fell asleep at my computer after my last post! Hahaha! I woke up an hour and a half later thinking, crap! I was in the middle of a post LOL guess I was sleepier than I thought!

Anyway, sorry Madison about your mom! I have a slightly similar situation with my mother as well. We have a great relationship, but there's nothing that hurts her more than seeing her daughter getting married before she's 35 years old. So she's not enthusiastic in the least. She does a few things, but I think she does them only because she feels she's supposed to as a mother. But not because she's actually pumped for this wedding. I've got some awesome pics of her yawning away behind me while I tried on wedding dresses lol smh. You're doing well in keeping all wedding related things with her to a minimum. Just keep it up. Try to not let it affect you as much as well, humanly possible. Don't concern yourself too much with her, if she doesn't do the same. And like PP said, focus on those around you who DO support you! Hugs!