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Question on Listing Divorced Parents in the Program

So, I have my first drama that's come up throughout the entire wedding process, and twonweeks prior, ugh!

So, both my FI and I have divorced parents, and here's how was going to list on the programs. Is this right? If you were in a similar situation, what did you do?

Parents of the bride:
Debbie Last Name
Al and Jo Last Name

(my mom's not remarried, my dad is)

Parents of the Groom
David and Cheryl Last Name
Paul Last Name

His mom is remarried, and his dad is not.

Thoughts? Am I doing this all wrong?

Re: Question on Listing Divorced Parents in the Program

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    edited December 2011
    I'm pretty sure that's the way I've always seen it.
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    bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    That's the way that I did it
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    bigbabyfacebigbabyface member
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    edited December 2011

    We didn't add Alex's parents significant others. One is remarried the other is not. But he doesnt see his fathers new wife as a "parent" persay. we had both parents split up as we did even though my parents are still together. It just looked less awkward to us. We didn't have them smushed together though because husbands parents both have the same last name still - we didnt want there to be any confusion as to whether or not they were still married. so we just left them so.
    I honestly think its personal perference :)

    we just had them like this:

    Parents of the Bride:
    Mike Last Name
    &
    Lori Last Name

    Parents of the Groom:
    David Last Name
    &
    Dessa Last Name
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    laurencstelaurencste member
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    edited December 2011
    I did it the way you are.  I said:

    Parents of the Groom
    Stepdad and Mom Newlastname
    Dad and Stepmom Groomslastname

    I listed the Mom and her new husband first since she was the mom.  Perfectly appropriate.  Another thing you may want to think of is do you want the new parent to walk down the aisle during the seating of the family?  We went ahead and had all 4 of the "parents" walk down the aisle, even though one of the remarriages had occurred only 3 years ago.  It was just easier that way so no one's feelings were hurt.
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    Jen6862Jen6862 member
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    edited December 2011
    You could list separately? Mother of the Bride Name Father of the Bride Name Mother of the Groom Name Father of the Groom Name
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    edited December 2011
    I am having the same problem. My parents are divoced and both remarried. My FI's parents are still married. What we decided to do is not to list any of their names and just put

                                           Together with their parents
                                                     Brides Name
                                                             and
                                                     Grooms Name
                                             
    and the rest will be something along the lines of would like to invite you to come celebrate their union. I am not sure yet of the rest.
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    bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_question-listing-divorced-parents-program?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:88b117f8-906c-4b72-a572-bf5b5be6b6a1Post:bffd6b30-fc04-4734-991e-3c65b751ff8e">Re: Question on Listing Divorced Parents in the Program</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am having the same problem. My parents are divoced and both remarried. My FI's parents are still married. What we decided to do is not to list any of their names and just put                                        Together with their parents                                                  Brides Name                                                          and                                                  Grooms Name                                           and the rest will be something along the lines of would like to invite you to come celebrate their union. I am not sure yet of the rest.
    Posted by gregamywedding[/QUOTE]

    That's perfect for an invitation, but the question is for the program.  :)  Do you know how you will list them in the program?
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    ejheartejheart member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_question-listing-divorced-parents-program?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:88b117f8-906c-4b72-a572-bf5b5be6b6a1Post:6e2df2fa-006d-4db2-8abb-3e9bac0fa7d2">Re: Question on Listing Divorced Parents in the Program</a>:
    [QUOTE]I did it the way you are.  I said: Parents of the Groom Stepdad and Mom Newlastname Dad and Stepmom Groomslastname I listed the Mom and her new husband first since she was the mom.  Perfectly appropriate.  Another thing you may want to think of is do you want the new parent to walk down the aisle during the seating of the family?  We went ahead and had all 4 of the "parents" walk down the aisle, even though one of the remarriages had occurred only 3 years ago.  It was just easier that way so no one's feelings were hurt.
    Posted by laurencste[/QUOTE]

    <div>I think it's more appropriate to list the Mom first and then the stepdad in this example, just because she is the biological parent and should thus get more credit. So, I would have done:</div><div>
    </div><div>Mom and Stepdad Newlastname</div><div>
    </div><div>Dad and Stepmom Groomslastname</div><div>
    </div><div>...or maybe the Dad first, either way. That's how I've seen it done before. Just my two cents. I also think listing all parents out individually is perfectly fine if the step parents did not have a huge contribution in the upbringing. </div>
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