We have a dilemma.
We have a lot of out-of-town family coming in for the wedding, most coming from NY. FI's mother thinks all these guests should be invited to the rehearsal dinner, but FI and his dad think only immediate family and wedding party should be invited (and I agree with this). With all out of town guests, we're pushing 70 people at the rehearsal dinner. Just for reference, we only have 100 at the wedding, so this is almost the whole guest list being invited to the rehearsal dinner.
I'm trying to remove myself from this discussion and let them do whatever they want since they're paying, but I just thought I'd see if I could get any helpful suggestions for them, or at least see if there is some kind of general rule for this.