Can we also talk about seating charts??

Nati05

Has anyone started playing around with theirs yet? Well let me tell ya, they are a b!tch! Here I am thinking oh this will be easy, we'll probably just whip it up a week or so before the wedding. Yeah, I'm doubting this will be easy or fun. I was bored at work last week waiting for my student to arrive and thought I'd play around with making a seating chart. I know, I know there's not much to be done before RSVPs come in, but I just wanted an idea. But wth do you do with a family of 9 with table of 8?? At least a family of 10 is easier to deal with..there isn't just one sad person awkwardly on their own lol. Or how annoying is ending up with 3 tables of 7 people...though none of them can be mixed because they don't know each other? Lol sigh! I'm beginning to contemplate doing what everyone else does here...find your own seat! But at the same time I really don't want to, I have a few guests who won't know hardly anyone and I really don't want them to end up somewhere awkward...and yes, I do have a few awkward guest I want to keep from mingling too much hahaha ; Anyone else having fun with these??

bridetobe71412

I haven't attempted to organize the names yet because our numbers are totally unclear (inviting 225, will probably end up with 150-175). I do know, however, that I'm going to write everyone's name out on a huge mirror I bought at Home Goods a few weekends ago.

It'll be like this: http://pinterest.com/pin/112801165636802680/

BmoreBride311

I started playing with the tool on Weddingwire.com just for fun, but I haven't gotten very far with it. I just stared with the 100% for sure coming family members.

For a family of 9, I would think you'll probably want to split kind of evenly (5 and 4 or maybe 6 and 3) across two tables, but it would depend on the ages of the family members, if they know other guests, etc.

I went to a wedding with my family last summer, and due to table sizes, the bride and groom decided to seat my whole family at one table EXCEPT my sister, who was put at a table with other single ppl whom she never met. She was very offended by this and even got emotional and cried about it a bit in the bathroom with me. So, if you do split families, I would suggest doing it in chunks, not singling someone out (unless you are 100% sure they would want to be at the singles table or with other guests they might know).

littlemoments324

Yes, I've played around with it a little bit..I had my DOC send me a layout of the space with tables & all so I could start to play with it.  It is kind of a PITA!  But I think I have everyone where they need to go.  I'll change things as need be...I know for sure the first 10 tables everyone will be there...the other 7-9 are maybe's.

dramaqueen91087

I haven't officially started yet but I have been thinking about it. I have a few drama situations. Like two of FI's comedy friends are having a long fued (over a stupid contest!), but they really only know the same people who will be one table. Luckily one of them is dating someone I work with. So they may sit with the few people from work I'm inviting, but they would work so much better with the comics, OY.

My family should be pretty easy though. We have big events like this a lot (Bar/Bat Mitzvah's) so the tables are pretty much already figured out. We'll just to play around with a few if people don't come.

penny12986

I have done a rough estimate of how it will work.  Since we are only having around 50 people, I think I am going to do 7 tables.  I know they won't be full but that will be a way to fill the room and still have people sit with people they know like high school friends, his family, my family and work people.

elizabethmae315

Lucky for me; a lot of our friends divided into groups of 8 with their dates and such; and it was easy to keep it that way. But idk what will happen when people RSVP no. And I have no idea what to do with family yet. It scares me too much to deal with just yet...

LADY324

Yes I tried playing around with just our friends the other day and realized how bad this is going to suck!!! 

Nati05

I hear ya LM! Big PITA lol! Bmore that's a good idea. What happened to your sister is exactly what I want to avoid. I'm sorry that happened to her! Something like that will make anyone think "why did I get picked to be the odd one out??!" Penny I'm in the same boat. We're 70 people and it's tough filling up all the tables when not all the families or friends know each other. I have several tables of 5s and 7s right now. Is this what you mean about not full tables as well?

Nati05

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Omg I know! Lol I'm really not looking forward to doing this with FI!

butterflyjumper1

It is definitely better to split groups (whether it is a group of close friends or a big family) in half so they still are sitting with people they know and love, rather than singling anyone out.

You guys probably remember the story I told about being placed with a big family (although I think it was an accident) and then getting kicked out of the table...even though I am pretty sure it was an accident, I totally understand how Bmore's sister felt - it was offensive and awkward and my feelings were kind of hurt when I felt like I was the one person pulled out of my group of friends to sit with someone else. 

So if you have, say, a group of 10 friends who are really close - put half at one table and half at another table. Same for families. I think this solves the problem.

I love puzzles and riddles and organizing things so I am actually excited for the chaos of putting our seating chart together

bells24412

I am not looking forward to it. All my friends who already are married said this was the worse part of the whole wedding planning process.

k8888

Eh.. our families are pretty small and drama-free (now that my dad's family is out of the picture haha) so I don't see this being TOO bad for us.

My MOH just told me for her wedding she's putting me at a table of her OOT old college friends and is splitting me and my FI up from my family's table because she has uneven tables... I was kind of hurt because I would like to be with my family/friends and not a bunch of strangers at my best friend's weddng.    Oh well!

michelle11988

I started playing around with it and I think I have it semi-figured out.  This will probably all change once we get the RSVP's back.  FI's cousin grouped all the cousins at one table and all the aunts/uncles at one table and that worked out best since we could hang with his cousins.  I am going to probably do the same thing for his family at our wedding and it will make it a bit easier.

marylab

Well I'm going to see who's good with who,

and then seat them as groups.For example,

I have a group of 3 families with a total of 9 people

and I have an option or seat them in a 8p table,it's

easy to get another chair or in a 10p table and have

a little extra space.In worst case scenario I'll have a couple

long tables instead of round.

Melissa.hylton

I tried making up a mock one on here with the seating chart setting the knot provides and the bastard didnt save after seating all 200 people! After that happend I said screw it! I will wait until June.