Did anyone else have an issue of their parents suddenly fighting them on wedding-related things after not caring for most of the planning process?
Back story: parents started out with 1 budget, then slashed it in half, which forced us to relocate the wedding from DFW to WF. Then they began saying they weren't paying for anything, at which point FI and I began planning on our own and booking things that WE could responsibly afford to pay for. Parents are now saying they're paying for things, but have yet to actually pay for anything (e-pics, my dress, deposits, etc), and we're just over 4 months out.
I want to make it clear that while I appreciate my parents offering to pay, once they said they weren't paying FI and I fully prepared to pay for the entire wedding and thus based our budget on what WE could realistically afford.
Here is my situation: we are getting BBQ catered for our wedding. Super classy? No, but it's from our favorite restaurant, the wedding is very casual, and it's what we want (and can afford). The restaurant provides black foam plates and black plasticware for the food. Classy? Nope, but it's included in the price, it can be thrown away after, and no one is taking pictures of the plates!
Mom finds out, is now insisting that we rent dishes, silverware, and glassware, along with a staff to clean it. My point? Even if she wants nicer looking plasticware, we can do that for around $250. Renting plates/glasses/silverware for 225 people will be around $750 (VERY conservative estimate). Oh yeah, and I was going to have a table set up for our bartender, she now wants to rent a bar.
AND... where is this money coming from to pay for this? They haven't paid for anything else (not even the food deposit, which is due next week) yet they're going to insist on spending $1K plus on all this when we have like $7K outstanding still to pay?
Am I right to be upset about this? I've just about had it with my parents changing their minds every 5 seconds on whether or not they want to be involved and constantly saying "Money isn't an issue" when they still haven't helped pay for anything.
Obviously I can't tell her NOT to rent this stuff, but how do I tell her that I'm worried she's going to pay for that and NOT anything else?