thank you note etiquette

wagnerj3

We are getting married April 17th. Invites have not gone out but we have already started to get wedding presents.  I wanted to make cute thank you's with our wedding photo on them but am worried that it's rude to wait three months to send a thank you. Thoughts? I could just send them a regular one that I am using for my shower gifts but they won't be nearly as cute.

nae82

definitely go ahead and send them one to let them know you got it. You can send them one after the wedding thanking them for coming too, if you want... so they get the cute card

cfibelkorn

I would send your invites out immediately

I would send the Thank You notes now to those who sent them early but just make a note on your list that you don't need to send them one after the wedding

fallbride1109

I waited until after the wedding and sent photo TY cards.  I figured they would get the hint that this was the reason I waited.  We had many elderly guests that were not able to attend and who hadn't seen Ben in years--I wanted them to have a picture from the wedding.

I did send out shower TY notes immediately however.

TCUESW1999

I sent them out immediately when I received a gift just because I didn't want to have to deal with writing out a ton of thank you notes and I am so glad I did.  I still had to write alot but it was a fraction of what it would have been had I waited to do them all at the same time.  But, like Stephie said, I can see why you would want to wait. 

kimandwillie

I went ahead and made thank you's with one of my engagement photos to send for shower gifts and gifts before the wedding.

I would definitely go ahead and send the thank you's.

JennandCollin

Go ahead and send the thank you now.  We are sending thank you's with a picture from our wedding day to everyone who came to the wedding.  If you wait till after the wedding to do ALL of the thank you notes, that could be really stressful, too!  I'd rather do a little at a time.

juliebug1997

I agree:  send them now.  The sender deserves to know that you got it and that it arrived undamaged. 

SarahandAlex2010

I would send a standard one now and than after the wedding send your cute wedding thank you.

wagnerj3

I love these ideas, thank ladies. I know, it feels weird not to send one right away. I usually send thank you notes within days of getting a gift!  Plus you are right. I did 20 thank you's in one day for a shower and I was like, wow I cannot wait until John has to do some of these too.

We were going to send the invites out mid February but I might just drop them in the mail now!  Just don't tell the 8 week etiquette police.