Should I break up

ajmom2two

with our offciant?  I have a friend from my moms group who offered to officate our wedding back in January.  I had put the word out b4 we were even engaged that we would be looking for someone bc I knew that we would be getting engaged and married sometime this year.  She messaged me on facebook and said she would love to do it and gave us a great deal.  Since then she has been saying she will email me some ceremony information.  She has been saying this for about 2 1/2 months now and still nothing.  A few weeks ago I sent her an email asking if we needed to get together to give her a deposit, etc.  She responded that she normally gets a deposit but we could just pay her the day of the wedding since she knows us.  She also said she would send over ceremony information for us to look at in the next 48 hours.  She still never sent anything.  This is really stressing me out!  Also I would feel better paying her a deposit bc to me that makes things a bit more official, ya know!?  I like her and would love for her to do our ceremony but I feel like she is being really flaky and it stresses me about what might happen the day of the wedding.   Am I being silly about this or are my concerns reasonable.  I am just afraid if I tell her we aren't having her its going to cause drama in my mom group.  What should I do?

Madisonpenny

Can you call her on the phone and tell her you would like to schedule a meeting (and actually pick a date when your talking to her) about going over the ceremony.  If you have to blame it on your ceremony venue and that they require an outline of the ceremony.

butterflyjumper1

Hmmmmm.....this is a tough one, because it isn't just a random vendor who isn't getting the job done, it is a friend of your mom's.

Perhaps you could give her a call and ask to meet with her in-person. You could ask her questions, get the information you needed, and see if your concerns are truly valid. Some people are absent minded and forgetful (sometimes I totally space and don't do things people ask me to.)  not that this is necessarily any excuse at all, but perhaps she actually is on top of things, and has just forgotten to respond to some of your requests?

If this was any old vendor, I would for sure say adios, but since it is a friend, I think it is worth arranging a meeting to go over things.  If the meeting doesn't go well, and she isn't well prepared for it, then I think it is time to call it quits with her.

littlemoments324

I would call her & arrange a meeting with her and let her know that we need to meet because we have X amount of time left and i need to start narrowing things down...

TChiumi

I agree with Butterfly.  I this is a tought situation because she is a friend of your mom's.  I would tell her you would really like to get together buy her a cup of coffee and discuss the ceremony.  Ask her to bring the ceremony information she has and see if she is willing to take the time to go through it with you and answer any questions you may have.  

If she is unwilling to meet with you or spaces out and forgets then I would let her know in a nice way that you were going to have to go with someone else. I also like Madison's idea about blaming it on the venu at least that may help ease the tension that may arise if you tell her you are going with someone else.