Shower Question

danac2010

Ok so my FI and I live in DFW and do most of my family.  His family is all from a town close to Wichita Falls.   His parents have both passed away so he doesn't have any immidate family and his Aunts/Uncles and cousins are trying to step in for him as family but they don't have the finances to help with the wedding which is TOTALLY fine.  Do I need to have a shower up there for his family or should we just send them an invite to the one here and if they can come great and if not I understand completely.  Its not a long drive but it is an all day thing if they do come.  Plus they would have to drive here and back the same day or get a hotel because none of my family has extra room unfortuantely.  If I do a shower up there do I just hope one of his aunts/cousins offers or what.  My mom asked me today if I was doing a shower there and I actually hadn't thought about it.  Thanks in advance!

fallbride1109

It's not clear from your post, but it is not proper etiquette to throw your own bridal shower.  So to have one "up there," someone would need to offer to host it for you.

I had a shower here and invited my relatives from Tyler and they all came.  It's perfectly fine to just invite them to the one that is being hosted for you here.  And if someone up there hosts one for you, that's fine as well.

danac2010

Sorry it was unclear.  I didn't want to host my own but I didn't want his family to feel like they had to drive out here.  Most of his family is in poor health and asking them to drive here for the rehersal and wedding was almost too much.  I'm sure if they can come they will try for the one that is being hosted here.  Again sorry if it was unclear!

fallbride1109

Yeah, if you want one up there, proper etiquette says someone needs to offer.  But I would definitely extend the invitation to the one that is thrown here.