Wording - both parents deceased

courtneydawn82

Hi ladies - I've searched and searched and searched the internet to find my answer, but I'm not having a lot of luck.  I've found a ton of info regarding how to word things when one parent is deceased and another is remarried, etc.  Both of my parents are deceased.  My fiance and I are hosting the wedding, so the invitations were easy...we just left the parents out of it.  But I'm having trouble with the wording for the wedding program and how to list my parents in the section about the wedding party.  I am obviously going to list his parents in the program, but what are the rules about listing deceased parents?  I do have a section on the back of the program to honor those no longer with us.  Would it be weird to just have his listed in the wedding party section?   But I also don't want to leave my parents out either...ugh I'm torn!

I appreciate any advice, suggestions or ideas that you guys have to offer!  Have a great weekend!!

ejheart

I'm not an expert on this, but I think you could do it either way. If you wanted to keep them in the wedding party section, could you refer to them as "The Late Mr. and Mrs. SoandSo"? Or, you could have a nice little blurb at the end about honoring those who are no longer with you. If you google, I think you can find some really nice little phrases about honoring those who have passed. I think it's really up to you and what your preference is though. I don't think anyone will find it "weird" either way.

ktwed1

I like ej's idea about using " the late Mr. Mrs."

cwaggoner07

Same as PP. I would put them at the top part of the wedding program, as I usually think of the In Honor Of section  more from grandparents. But there is absolutely no wrong answer, and no one will judge what you do. Whatever you feel comfortable with is probably what is right.
GL!

rsaleh84

agree with PPs....just do what feels right to you, and don't worry, because no matter what, it is the thought and the meaning behind it that matters most.

courtski2004

In addition to noting something in the program, are you open to doing something more visible in remembrance of your parents? A friend of mine lost her mother 15 years ago and honored her during the ceremony by keeping the seat normally reserved for the MOG empty, and she and her H placed a rose on the chair. The pastor read something aloud to the congregation as they did this, and I'll have to say that it was more moving than anything they could have written in the program. Maybe an unoccupied 'sweetheart table' at the reception or one of their wedding photos on a table in the entrance of the church or reception? 

courtneydawn82

I appreciate all of the ideas and advice, ladies!  I definitely wanted to put them in a "special" area, away from the In Remembrance section, as this is more for grandparents, etc.   But you're right, no matter what I go with, I know everyone in attendance won't judge and will know it's coming from love.

Have a great evening, and a great week!