Register?

NICOLEWILSON85

My FI and I live together and have for about 4 years now. We have everything we need. We are getting married next year in May. Some people suggested that we register. Is this appropriate? Should we ?

KJDOHERTY

Yes you should, even if its just a small registry.  A lot of people refuse to give cash as wedding gifts so will buy you gifts regardless of whether you register or not.  At least with a registry you'll be getting some items you want.  Maybe consider upgrades to items you already have.  Or if you really don't need anything, when people ask where you're registered perhaps you could have your relatives spread the word that in lieu of gifts you'd be honored if they would donate money to X charity.

*BeachBride0410*

Think about registering for things that you already have, but would like to upgrade.  Like new dinnerware, or stemware....new kitchen supplies.  I am sure you can think of somethings you would like to upgrade.

jagore08

DH and I lived together for about 6 years before we got married and thought we had everything we needed. But think about all the times you're cooking or cleaning there's the little things you don't have that would make things so much easier. Like a pizza stone or cutter. Think about maybe upgrading your pots and pans. A new vacuum cleaner, maybe? You should register.

jquirke9881

I agree that you should register...  Hubby and I lived together for 4 years also and we owend a house for he last 2.  We upgraded a lot of our stuff and also registered at Sears because there were a lot of home improvement and outdoor tools that we wanted.  

linzbelle363

I don't think you HAVE TO, but you certainly can. No one will think it's inappropriate by any means. FI and I have lived together for 4 years also, and we're registering for things like towels and pots & pans that desperately need replacing. If you can't think of anything you need, what if you did the honeymoon registry?

mjessie84

My fiance and I live together now, but we have still registered because we don't have everything and also we are in our early-mid 20's and this is the time to upgrade! (I don't really want to have my ceramic Target plates for the rest of my life...haha). But other couples who I know who have lived together still have registered just to get speciality items or to upgrade. From an etiquette standpoint, I think it's absolutley appropriate to register. Try to find stores/items that you personally would like to have. Look at it this way, people will want to buy you gifts for your shower/wedding. Might as well give them some options instead of getting stuff you really don't want.

mcclurekelley

I agree.  Register!People are going to be looking for a registry.  Don't risk getting stuff you'll eventually use for the White Elephant Christmas exchange.  As someone said, look for upgrading items--new towels, sheets, etc.

Alison5437

As everyone else has said....go for it! We also lived together for two years, but decided to just upgrade our things. I'm so glad we did too

tommyandy

you could also register at lowe's or home depot if there's thing around the house that need fixing or updating.

Ali-Sunny

We had the same issue and a friend of mine had a good point. This is one of the few times in your life whe npeople WANT to give you stuff. Think about things you'd like to update or get nicer versions of. You'll be surprised how much you register for once you get going. We also registered for "fun" things like games & exercise equipment.

MartiG

We also have upgraded a lot of household appliances/items with the registry -- since we have lived together for the past year, and I had my own place before moving in with him. One of my friends does not want to give me cash for the wedding and there's only small stuff left on the registry. I suggested to her to get us a gift card to a nice restaurant, like Ruth Chris. We're not going to have the cash around after the wedding to go out for a super nice meal like that. So, her gift will get put to good use!

Zooloo

Absolutely register! I was married once before, have owned my own home for 5 years, and fiance moved in last year. Our house is so full, it's a cluttered disaster. ^_^ But we've registered. You also don't have to register for household stuff, remember. You can set up a universal registry and indicate that you want movie passes and a gift certificate for dinner at your favorite restaurant. Register for gym membership. Register for a puppy. You can put anything you want on a universal registry.

danielandjulianne

A honeymoon registry (like Travelers Joy) is a great way to go. My FI and I have been living together for three years so we fell in to the same boat. We registered for things we wanted upgrades on, camping/fun stuff, and then the honeymoon registry. Thanks to that we have a suite, cirque du soliei tickets, and dinners for the honeymoon.

ashleyandjerry2010

I would register-like pp have mentioned, people don't always like giving money and you'll end up with those dish towels that don't go with your decor and a ton of other stuff you really don't need. why not consider a honeymoon registry.... there a few websites out there that do registries for honeymoon only, they're all online and you pick activited you would like to do while on your honeymoon....

ks3pink

I see that the trend is to register but I think that it is really up to you. I know that registering makes people feel like they have to give a gift which is a situation I'm in right now. My friend had a shower which i was unable to attend and I really don't feel that she needs anything. I am a full-time college student so I hate to spend money that is not necessary but now I feel that I must as I am getting married in a year. The difference is I have nothing and will still be in school for two months after the wedding. I need gifts! But hey it's up to you!! 10/10/10 Bride!!

Lanyer

I just discovered a website called MyRegistry.com. It allows you to add gifts from almost any site you can think of. I love it because you aren't limited to household products or certain brands. Amazon.com is a great place to look for almost anything, you can add them to MyRegistry but I think they have a wedding registry on that site too if that fits you better. Hope this helps. I agree with other people on this post that you should register. If you don't people will call up relatives still asking what to get you and you don't know what you'll end up with.