Need Wedding Registry Advice, to be or not to be!

jamilea1984

Hi,

Our wedding is August 4th, 40 people, out of state to be closer to my groom's family. We are having a reception and everything. We wanted to initially put "Please no gifts. Your attendance is your gift to us" on our invitations, but several people have asked us where we are registered, etc.

We realize we could've told them, "No, we don't want anything.", but then we sort of thought two things: A. We don't want to take away their joy in doing it and B. It would be kind of nice to be pampered a bit !!

OK, we just aren't very sure whether or not a registry would be tacky or not. We do need some household things, but very little. Should we just forget the whole thing, don't put anything on the invitations and just let people do what they are going to do?? I would prefer it that way anyway, but I don't want to offend anyone that we didn't register.

What do you think?

Thanks

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If I were in your situation, I would make a small registry with a few upgrades or things you could use around the house (towels, new sheets?, home decor, etc.) so that people that want to give boxed gifts can give boxed gifts. Other people will elect to give cash or gift cards. People like bringing gifts to weddings, to start the happy couple on their life together- some bring cash, some bring gifts.

Also, your invitations should make no mention of gifts whatsoever (because that implies that gifts are expected, which is rude). Don't say no gifts, don't say where you're registered. Spread the registry via website or word of mouth.

MNVegas

Do not put anything pertaining to gifts or no gifts on your wedding invitations. 

I would do a small registry because there will be people who will buy you gifts whether you have a registry or not so you might as well get something you need. You will also probably get cash gifts to do with what you want.

jamilea1984

Do people usually put gift receipts with the item if it is a domestic gift?

If that's the case, then we don't mind exchanging things that we do not need.

Thanks ladies for your advice.

We think it best that we just don't say anything. If anyone asks, is it okay to tell them, "That's very nice of you, thank you. You don't have to, but if you insist, we would like it to be what you would like to get for us."??

Or, ugh...I don't know lol

jessicabessica

I would make a small registry, which you can tell people about if they ask.  Do not put registry information in your wedding invitations.  If people get you something you do not like or need, you can try to exchange it (easier if it was from your registry, some people did give us a gift receipt as well) or just donate it to charity, since, like you said, you don't need anything.

egm900

I would do a small registry, think of basic household necessities, towels, sheets, etc. that will get worn out (or a higher quality version of what you already have, high thread count sheets are amazing).  The person who asks where you're registered is not going to not give you a gift because you tell them they don't have to do that.  We don't really need anything either, but I figured if people are going to buy us gifts, it might as well be to our tastes.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Do people usually put gift receipts with the item if it is a domestic gift? If that's the case, then we don't mind exchanging things that we do not need. Thanks ladies for your advice. We think it best that we just don't say anything. If anyone asks, is it okay to tell them, "That's very nice of you, thank you. You don't have to, but if you insist, we would like it to be what you would like to get for us."?? Or, ugh...I don't know lol
Posted by jamilea1984[/QUOTE]

If someone asks you where you're registered, just answer them.  It doesn't need to be a "Oh, you don't have to!" type of answer.  They're asking for a reason.

librababy

The need is there, so do a registry.  People are asking for a reason... get pampered this one time and have fun.

JoanE2012

If you don't register for anything, be prepared to get FIVE blenders!  I don't think no registry = cash.  People seem to give what they want.  Maybe you can have your bridal party spread the word if you want cash.  I think that's what we are going to do.