Big Ticket Items

buttercup14

Hello All!  My fiancee and I have been together for 7 years and have most everything we need for our household with the exception of a few big ticket items. Is it okay to register for those items and let guests know via our website a gift card from that store for those items would be great?  Or is that the same as asking for cash (even though we can only spend it at the store where we're registered)?   We weren't going to register origianally, but we're being hounded about it.  We don't want to register for a bunch of stuff we don't need or have room for. Thanks for the advice!

HyperChicaPR

This might be bad advice, but depending on the store you can register for a bunch of smaller things that you can then return for credit towards your big ticket things. It's also fine to ask for gift cards. When I go to a wedding that doesn't have a lot of things on the registry it's a big clue they want cash or gift cards without them having to say it.

MNVegas

If you are being hounded, do a small registry and let people know you are saving for ? item and ? store. They will get the hint and give cash, buy a gift card at store and pool funds to buy joint gift. A lot of registries allow you to put gift cards on the registry, so you might look into that.

I would never suggest to register for gifts knowing you are just going to return them for cash, rather deceitful. Your guest put thought into selecting a gift for you and by putting that gift item on your registry suggests you actually want it.

Patineuse1124

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[QUOTE]If you are being hounded, do a small registry and let people know you are saving for ? item and ? store. They will get the hint and give cash, buy a gift card at store and pool funds to buy joint gift. A lot of registries allow you to put gift cards on the registry, so you might look into that. I would never suggest to register for gifts knowing you are just going to return them for cash, rather deceitful. Your guest put thought into selecting a gift for you and by putting that gift item on your registry suggests you actually want it.
Posted by MNVegas[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div>

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]This might be bad advice, but depending on the store you can register for a bunch of smaller things that you can then return for credit towards your big ticket things. It's also fine to ask for gift cards. When I go to a wedding that doesn't have a lot of things on the registry it's a big clue they want cash or gift cards without them having to say it.
Posted by HyperChicaPR[/QUOTE]

This is bad advice.

It's very rude to register for things with the intent of returning them.  I would be really irritated if I took the time to buy and wrap a gift only for you to return it for cash or store credit.

Register for the big ticket items you wan, check the "we also would like gift cards" box when you register, people will get the idea.

quotequeen

I wouldn't put anything about gift cards on your website.  Register for the items you want, and if people ask spread the word that you are saving for those items or other items.  But it would be nice if you could come up with *some* things that are smaller that you could use.  You really have no use for another set of new sheets or towels?  Or some new picture frames to put your wedding photos in?

kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]<strong>This might be bad advice, but depending on the store you can register for a bunch of smaller things that you can then return for credit towards your big ticket things. It's also fine to ask for gift cards.</strong> When I go to a wedding that doesn't have a lot of things on the registry it's a big clue they want cash or gift cards without them having to say it.
Posted by HyperChicaPR[/QUOTE]

That is indeed bad advice.

mysticl

One of the stores we registerd at asked if it was ok for people to give us gift cards.  We know some of the items we picked are more expensive (our wish list) so if people give us gift cards we can put a few of them together to get those items. 

gschiesser

My sister had recommended the register for things to return.   I myself would feel so guilty returning something that his grandmother bought us that I intended on returning.  I do not think gift cards are a bad idea this day in age.  I have no clue what we will register for.  

melanierpickering

My Fi and I have been together for 8 years and living together for 7 of them. We too have most of the things we need. However, we did register for newer versions of things (toaster, coffee maker, nice towels etc) There is always stuff you can update around the house. We do have a couple of more extravagent things on the list and we have asked the wedding party to discreetly tell people who ask that we would prefer money than registry gifts.

buttercup14

Thanks for all the advice!  We didn't know you could register for gift cards!  On BB&B, we registered for a Dyson vacuum cleaner and 35 $25 gift cards!  We also registered for some small and big items on WS and gift cards as well too.  Problem solved!

mysticl

The really bad idea about regestering for stuff and returning it is that if the giver is anything like my mother at some point you will be asked if you used it or they will come to your house and expect to see it.  Then how do you explain that you returned an item that you had specifically asked for?  Just throwing that out there if anyone was thinking of it. 

alfanoma

Definitely register for the big ticket items, it let's people know what you'd really want, so they'd be inclined to give you gift cards or cash. 

I have a question that sort of piggy backs on this- we had a few guests complain that there "wasn't enough on the registry."  In reality, there was enough, but she wanted to buy us crystal glasses, which we intentionally left off the registry.  What do people do when guests complain about the content of the registry?

miaka51

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[QUOTE]Definitely register for the big ticket items, it let's people know what you'd really want, so they'd be inclined to give you gift cards or cash.  I have a question that sort of piggy backs on this- we had a few guests complain that there "wasn't enough on the registry."  In reality, there was enough, but she wanted to buy us crystal glasses, which we intentionally left off the registry.  What do people do when guests complain about the content of the registry?
Posted by alfanoma[/QUOTE]

Ignore ignore ignore.  Just because they think you need something doesn't mean you should REGISTER for it.  In my experience, people will get you what they want to get you regardless of whether or not its on the registry.  Even I have gone off registry for people I am close to.  So don't put it on just to appease them.  However, if you don't have enough on your registry, it can be frustrating to more distant friends and relatives who may not know what to get, and I always feel guilty giving cash or giftcards - the whole i love you this many dollars thing... so keep that in mind.

lholt3696

Some stores have registries where guests can put money towards big ticket items so if you need a new washer and dryer, tv, grill, etc, etc, guests can chip in without having to know each other and coordinate it between themselves.  I know Best Buy does it and then they keep of list of who put money towards what item and how much so you know who to send thank you cards to.  I'm sure other stores offer stuff like that as well but Best Buy is the only one I know of for sure that does it.