Registering for gifts - Second marriage

mkep73

My fiance and I are going to be getting married in September and it will be his first and my second. My parents feel strongly that we should NOT register for gifts since my friends and family have purchased for a previous wedding but his family feels that it is important so that people know what to get. Is there any rule about this one way or the other??

Avion22

It's fine to register for what you need or would like to upgrade, even for a second wedding.  People who want to buy you gifts will ask if/where you are registered, and you can tell them.  People who don't want to or are unable to purchase a gift won't ask.   Some people will give you money no matter what.   If you register, you at least give people who WANT to give gifts an idea of what you like/need.

Also, there is a "Second Weddings" board on the left under "Special Topics Wedding Boards" -- come join us:-)

Jonathan&Erin

Realistically, a lot of people will side eye the fact that you are registering again.  I'm not saying don't do it.  Just be aware that a lot of your guests will be thinking back to the last time that they bought you a gift. 

Ali092011

I think you should register. People on his side of the family will probably want to buy you a gift. Actually, many guests on both sides of the family will buy gifts regardless of what they bought you for your first wedding. Those who believe it's inappropriate to purchase a gift for your second marriage probably won't even ask for your registry.

meganb1977

It's fine to do whatever you want.  My one boss recently remarried and I thought she had a fine perspective that she wanted new china for her new marriage.  She has a daughter from her first marriage and has the china from that wedding boxed up for her daughter to use someday.

hoffse

I think it's fine but I wouldn't necessarily post information about it anywhere.  You can tell people who ask where you are registered and people who search for you will find it.  But I wouldn't post registry information on a wedding website, and I would probably forego a shower, since it's your second not his.