My fiancé and I have been living together since 2008. We literally have everything we need eight now. We live in an apartment with pets. I've lived in apartments since I was born, literally. I am absolutely sick of it. We've gone house hunting and almost got one. We qualified for the loan and were more than able to make monthly payments... The problem was the down payment. We are saving up for our wedding...
So that's just a little history there. We have too much STUFF cramped into our tiny apartment, the last thing we need is more stuff.
My thought is to leave a card in the invitation stating "to be honest, We have everything we need for our home, except for the home! So we are asking for donations towards our house fund, instead of registering." I want to include something saying "if this is really not your taste, we are also very grateful for a sentimental gift from you. But your presence on our big day is our main wish!" now I think I worded this a little ...ehh, so.
Also want to mention that our parents are absolutely against it. They think if we do this, people may be so offended that they won't come. They insist we register somewhere. I'd also like to mention that the kind of furniture and linens we want are things we find handmade on etsy. Not the plain Jane overpriced curtains in JC Penney. They suggest us to register and return gifts for the cash. This seems dishonest and a huge obstacle that I feel we should be able to avoid.
I also just recently realized that you aren't supposes to include a registration card in your invitation envelope. There's no way that our parents will even know all the people to tell where we registered? Poo etiquette......
Anyway.. My question is, has anyone here ever just asked for cash? I truly can't fit another mug, crock pot, towel, or lamp in this apartment...
Ps. I'm not looking for how I'm so tacky for thinking this- Looking for genuine opinions to help me decide how to say this, or not say it! Thanks guys!
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