How do I word this......

JVManning86

I wasn't planning on doing a registry since this is both mine and fiance's second marriages. A couple family members on both sides have asked what we need so I decided to do a small one, blender, Coal BBQ, just lil things mainly needing replacing or for outdoor entertaining since we love grilling however recently sold do to a recent move into a smaller place with hardly a backyard til we could get on post housing.

Fiance found out today that we will be having a military move (overseas post) over Christmas and New Years. And as any military brides know, the less you move the better since there's a weight requirement on how much can be moved. As of right now just planning on taking the bedroom furniture. Living room n Kitchen furniture, we will get over there.

My mom was gonna get me a china set, that's out of the question now. Stuff is being shipped by boat overseas.

I don't want to ask for money. Hate the ideas of wishing wells and honeymoon registries and stuff like that. And I'm not sure what stores are overseas so I'm guessing most gift cards are out of the question too.

I'd rather not have any gifts than ask for money. So how do I word this?

beardownbchs

By "how do I word this" I'm hoping that you don't mean on the invitations since there should never be anything about gifts on the invites. 

In this situation, I suggest not registering at all and just being honest if/when people ask. Or could you register for little things, like new sheets and towels, things you'd be taking with you anyway? But in your situation, I think it's okay just to say, "Due to the move overseas and the fact that we are very limited on what we can take with us, we decided not to register". 

I hope someone will come and correct me if I'm wrong here, but in your situation I don't see any other options..

JVManning86

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[QUOTE]By "how do I word this" I'm hoping that you don't mean on the invitations since there should never be anything about gifts on the invites.  In this situation, I suggest not registering at all and just being honest if/when people ask. Or could you register for little things, like new sheets and towels, things you'd be taking with you anyway? But in your situation, I think it's okay just to say, "Due to the move overseas and the fact that we are very limited on what we can take with us, we decided not to register".  I hope someone will come and correct me if I'm wrong here, but in your situation I don't see any other options..
Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]

No not on the invitations. Really just to his family. To them, it's his first wedding since his last one (courthouse wedding, last moment before deployment) didn't last a year, then he filed for divorce. They never met her since she was from near his duty station which was away from his family and never went home with him on his leave. So they want to go all out with everything (bridal shower, bachlor parties, etc.) even though I've ask not to. Only reason we are having a small ceremony is bc my family is on the west coast and his on the east coast so this will most likely be the only time both families come together in one place.

I know he doesn't want to mention the move overseas just yet due to us having a daughter this last Oct and his mom being excited about a grandbaby. That and then with military, don't believe til your on your way. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

s-aries8990

Just have a small registry and if you're questioned say "We aren't sure where we're going to be next year! You know how unpredictable military moves can be and we don't want to have to pay astronomical shipping costs. We're actually trying to save up for x (something that doesn't have to do with baby). How's the new job?"

Give a vague indication that you'll be making a move and blame it on the military. Tell your guests that you're saving up money for something (I'm sure you are, right? For something not baby related?) even if you know it's a ways out before you reach that financial goal. Then move the conversation onto something non-wedding related.

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]By "how do I word this" I'm hoping that you don't mean on the invitations since there should never be anything about gifts on the invites.  In this situation, I suggest not registering at all and just being honest if/when people ask. Or could you register for little things, like new sheets and towels, things you'd be taking with you anyway? But in your situation, I think it's okay just to say, "Due to the move overseas and the fact that we are very limited on what we can take with us, we decided not to register".  I hope someone will come and correct me if I'm wrong here, but in your situation I don't see any other options..
Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]

<div>This. </div>

Avion22

I'm military too....where are you going?  I ask because it's almost always cheaper to take your old stuff with you than it is to buy new stuff outside the US.   Obviously you have to pay attention to your weight allowance, but unless you have TONS of stuff you should just bring what you have.

We're stationed in the UK and got married in the US.  We set up our registry with BB&B, who ships to APO addresses.  We listed our APO address as the shipping address for purchases from the registry, and most people just shipped things to us.  A few people gave us stuff in person (apparently a lot of BB&B sales clerks tell people that they can't ship to APO even though they can).    

If you don't want big stuff, then don't register for big stuff.  You can register for stuff that's small and easy to pack (sheets, towels), or upgrades for your old stuff (your new pots and pans probably won't weigh any more than you rold pots and pans, and the old stuff can go to charity or to your base thrift store/airman's attic/loan locker).   

Cash and checks aren't so big a deal overseas as long as you have USAA.  You can deposit checks online with your computer/scanner or iPhone/iPad.   You can use dollars on base at the BX/PX or Commissary.   

If you let people know that you are moving overseas, they will probably just give you money or will stick with smaller items that are easily packed.  You don't need to "tell" anyone anything...just a mention on your website about your upcoming international move should be fine!

JVManning86

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[QUOTE]I'm military too....where are you going?  I ask because it's almost always cheaper to take your old stuff with you than it is to buy new stuff outside the US.   Obviously you have to pay attention to your weight allowance, but unless you have TONS of stuff you should just bring what you have. We're stationed in the UK and got married in the US.  We set up our registry with BB&B, who ships to APO addresses.  We listed our APO address as the shipping address for purchases from the registry, and most people just shipped things to us.  A few people gave us stuff in person (apparently a lot of BB&B sales clerks tell people that they can't ship to APO even though they can).     If you don't want big stuff, then don't register for big stuff.  You can register for stuff that's small and easy to pack (sheets, towels), or upgrades for your old stuff (your new pots and pans probably won't weigh any more than you rold pots and pans, and the old stuff can go to charity or to your base thrift store/airman's attic/loan locker).    Cash and checks aren't so big a deal overseas as long as you have USAA.  You can deposit checks online with your computer/scanner or iPhone/iPad.   You can use dollars on base at the BX/PX or Commissary.    If you let people know that you are moving overseas, they will probably just give you money or will stick with smaller items that are easily packed.  You don't need to "tell" anyone anything...just a mention on your website about your upcoming international move should be fine!
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

I'll private message you.