Should I send a gift

abbyplaninsek

So I got invited to the bridal shower for a girl who marrying one of my soon to be husbands friends. We are not really close - we hang out ocasically with our signifigant others but I would not call us friends.  Never in a million years did it cross my mind to invite her to my shower.  To top it off her shower is the day after my wedding so she knows that there is no way that I am attending.  She is one of thos girls that has to have the best of everything and I suspect that she just invited me for the gift.....which at this point i really hate to send.  She is registered at Macy and Williams Sonoma and everything she chose is $50+ dollars.  With my own wedding coming up I dont have any serious cash to throw around but feel like I am obligated to send something.  Thoughts?

waltzingmatilda13

You're not obligated to send a gift. She obviously knows you wouldn't be able to attend because of the date so I think she is fishing for gifts. Just send your regrets about not going and leave it at that.

quotequeen

I wouldn't send a gift.

Patineuse1124

Given the situation I wouldn't send a shower gift either. I would also be super annoyed that there wasn't anything less than $50 (even if I was planning to spend that much).  Hasn't she ever heard of catering to different price points?  

clarereedy

I would send her something.  Maybe you can find something not on her registry? 

vtbm

I would send something too. Even if it's a gift card to where she's registered.

flamingtwig72

I think a shower gift is always required, whether or not you attend. I would send a gift card for the amount you can afford.

abbyplaninsek

I am just not sure.  No doubt I would send a wedding gift but I am just unsure about the shower gift.  I still cant figure out why she would even invite me - except for the gift.

MrsMLRB

I had this same situation this summer! I chose not to attend the bridal shower (because I knew I would know no one) and not send a gift (I like giving gifts and I didn't want to spend more than $50 and she had nothing under $80). I asked another friend and she said that she probably invited all the females on her wedding list. I say pass on the shower and the gift (but maybe spend more on the wedding gift which is what my FI and I did).