Deposit A Gift - Review!

uncomlygd2 · May 2012

First let me start by saying I am not asking if I should ask for money or not, I already know how many feel about it. I am only asking if the site is legitimate? I have aleady spoken with many of my frineds and family and they think it is a great idea. If you don't that is your opinion and Im really not interested in hearing it. I'm not trying to be rude but I will do what I think is best for me and my groom and I just need to know if anyone has used the site and if it is in fact legitimate.

In advance Thanks to anyone who responds to this who has used the site and gives me useful info instead of insults and criticism.

Viczaesar · May 2012

You don't get to dictate what kinds of responses you'll get.

MNVegas · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:21724870-0935-4603-a47f-37486b6c39aa">Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]First let me start by saying I am not asking if I should ask for money or not, I already know how many feel about it. I am only asking if the site is legitimate? I have aleady spoken with many of my frineds and family and they think it is a great idea. If you don't that is your opinion and Im really not interested in hearing it. <strong>I'm not trying to be rude</strong> but I will do what I think is best for me and my groom and I just need to know if anyone has used the site and if it is in fact legitimate. In advance Thanks to anyone who responds to this who has used the site and gives me useful info instead of insults and criticism.
Posted by uncomlygd2[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Well, yes you are being rude in more ways than one.

</div>

jessicabessica · May 2012

Well, there is a 7.5% service fee on each gift, which you would know if you read the website. That means that if someone wants to give you $100, you only get $92.50. While the website says that 7.5% is lower than what is added onto a typical gift in taxes and shipping, if I give a gift from Amazon, I pay no shipping and no fees, and if I just put cash in an envelope and hand it to the recipient, I pay no shipping and no fees.

Plenty of people give cash as a wedding gift already. IMO, these kinds of sites are just looking for a way to get a cut of what is already happening, they are not creating a new market for something.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

It's rude AND there's a fee. Let people give you a check and cash it yourself. Not that hard.

Also, you don't get to tell other people how to post. Don't like the replies? Well, I don't like your original post, but I'm dealing.

GretchenLaRoux · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:21724870-0935-4603-a47f-37486b6c39aa">Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]First let me start by saying I am not asking if I should ask for money or not, I already know how many feel about it. I am only asking if the site is legitimate?<strong> I have aleady spoken with many of my frineds and family and they think it is a great idea</strong>. If you don't that is your opinion and Im really not interested in hearing it. I'm not trying to be rude but I will do what I think is best for me and my groom and I just need to know if anyone has used the site and if it is in fact legitimate. In advance Thanks to anyone who responds to this who has used the site and gives me useful info instead of insults and criticism.
Posted by uncomlygd2[/QUOTE]

Yeah, and they probably don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you what a horrible idea this is.

People are not stupid. They know you'd like cash. Who wouldn't? Just let them give it to you without making them go through a stupid company who is going to take a cut of it anyway.

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

If you're stupid enough to think that a company that wants to take 7.5% of your gifts is legitimate, you deserve what you get.

You know what they say about a fool and his money.

mbrischoux · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:dc1778d6-8d55-41c1-9e9d-e79df46dbc0e">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Deposit A Gift - Review! : Yeah, and they probably don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you what a horrible idea this is. People are not stupid. They know you'd like cash. Who wouldn't? Just let them give it to you without making them go through a stupid company who is going to take a cut of it anyway.
Posted by GretchenLaRoux[/QUOTE]

I agree with this, 100%.

In your post, you invited such replies by saying that you don't care what people have to say and that you're going to do what you want anyway, so if you were just going to use this service and be rude regardless, there was no point in asking for opinions.

EVERYONE on The Knot is going to say that asking for money is rude. Nobody here is trying to be hateful - they're trying to keep you from being side-eyed by your friends and family during what should be a happy and exciting day for you and your fiance.

Summer2011Bride · May 2012

Your friends and family said they were OK with it because they were being polite, which you will NOT be doing if you follow through with this. Honestly, it is poor etiquette to point out someone else's poor etiquette to their face, so no, they probably wouldn't tell you it's rude--doesn't mean they aren't thinking it or that they would actually contribute to it.

As others pointed out, why would you want a website that charges fees anyhow? If I want to give someone money, I will put a check in an envelope and hand it to them, not go through a middle man and have some taken out of it and given to this third party website. That's just absurd, and that's not even mentioning the rudeness of asking for money straight up.

LeiselEB · May 2012

Any discussion of rudeness aside - wouldn't you rather get a check at the wedding for $100 than get a check after the fact for less than that?

HobokensFury · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:21724870-0935-4603-a47f-37486b6c39aa">Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]First let me start by saying I am not asking if I should ask for money or not, I already know how many feel about it. I am only asking if the site is legitimate? I have aleady spoken with many of my frineds and family and they think it is a great idea. If you don't that is your opinion and Im really not interested in hearing it. I'm not trying to be rude but I will do what I think is best for me and my groom and I just need to know if anyone has used the site and if it is in fact legitimate. In advance Thanks to anyone who responds to this who has used the site and gives me useful info instead of insults and criticism.
Posted by uncomlygd2[/QUOTE]

You telling us not to be rude but that's the pot calling the kettle black. This post is nothing but rude. It's a free country, people can answer however they feel like it. Good luck with ripping your guests off.

uncomlygd2 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:b3103d4f-67b8-478f-b7cc-8a032e47cac2">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deposit A Gift - Review! : I agree with this, 100%. In your post, you invited such replies by saying that you don't care what people have to say and that you're going to do what you want anyway, so if you were just going to use this service and be rude regardless, there was no point in asking for opinions. EVERYONE on The Knot is going to say that asking for money is rude. Nobody here is trying to be hateful - they're trying to keep you from being side-eyed by your friends and family during what should be a happy and exciting day for you and your fiance.
Posted by mbrischoux[/QUOTE]

I did not ask for anyones opinion on the topic of asking for money I asked if anyone had used the site. Because although everyone has the right to their own opinion they don't have the right to insult someone because of their opinion as many have done.

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:0043ecce-a2e3-4d54-8c3b-0c12cae48114">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deposit A Gift - Review! : I did not ask for anyones opinion on the topic of asking for money I asked if anyone had used the site. Because although everyone has the right to their own opinion they don't have the right to insult someone because of their opinion as many have done.
Posted by uncomlygd2[/QUOTE]

<div>Pointing out that your greedy behavior is rude is not insulting you. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm sorry if you don't like seeing the truth. However, people on this site are not going to lie to you. They are trying to help you avoid embarrassing yourself in front of friends and family with such disgusting behavior. However, if you are hellbent on looking selfish, no one is going to be able to stop you. </div>

mrszeno34 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:0043ecce-a2e3-4d54-8c3b-0c12cae48114">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deposit A Gift - Review! : I did not ask for anyones opinion on the topic of asking for money I asked if anyone had used the site. Because although everyone has the right to their own opinion they don't have the right to insult someone because of their opinion as many have done.
Posted by uncomlygd2[/QUOTE]

Why would you want your friends and family to be paying a service charge that ultimately results in you getting less money for your gift? Seems unnecessary, when they could just give you cash or a check, and you'd end up getting the full amount they intended to give you. Plus there would be no risk of offending anyone with this type of registry...

samgirl · May 2012

totally understand your question. i asked the same a while back. unfortunately the loudest voices on theknot are critical, but LOTS of people use depositagift.com we had a great experience. it's totally legit, and IMHO no different than registering for stuff. in the end they are all registries and all suggestions. but if money is a more practical gift for you, as it was for us, this increases your chances of receiving that vs getting things you'll need to return, which i feel is more wasteful.

you'll find lots of great reviews from knotties and wedchannelers here: http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585

i also found the on-site review page helpful. people were honest and gave specific examples of their experience with depositagift. and i can personally attest to some of the best customer service i've ever experienced. no complaints from our guests and they actually used it, which is the true test

http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:2d687632-860c-44ef-927d-329f07d2a9ad">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]totally understand your question. i asked the same a while back. unfortunately the loudest voices on theknot are people with manners, but LOTS of people use depositagift.com we had a great experience. it's totally legit, and IMHO no different than registering for stuff.
Posted by samgirl[/QUOTE]

<div>FTFY</div>

pkontk · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:2d687632-860c-44ef-927d-329f07d2a9ad">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]totally understand your question. i asked the same a while back. unfortunately the loudest voices on theknot are critical, but LOTS of people use depositagift.com we had a great experience. it's totally legit, and IMHO no different than registering for stuff. in the end they are all registries and all suggestions. but if money is a more practical gift for you, as it was for us, this increases your chances of receiving that vs getting things you'll need to return, which i feel is more wasteful. you'll find lots of great reviews from knotties and wedchannelers here: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585">http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585</a> i also found the on-site review page helpful. people were honest and gave specific examples of their experience with depositagift. and i can personally attest to some of the best customer service i've ever experienced. no complaints from our guests and they actually used it, which is the true test :) <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials">http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials</a>
Posted by samgirl[/QUOTE]

Actually, it is different from registering for items, because if you register for $30 towels, you receive the full value of those towels and your guests don't pay a fee on top of it. With this site, they have a service charge so you don't get the full value of their gift. I'd side eye a cash registry, and if I gave the couple money at all I'd give them a check because I don't want my money going to a company that profits off improper etiquette.

ETA: No one was rude to OP. We told her why it might not be a good idea to use that site, we didn't say "You're a greedy B*#&$ for even considering using it."

Summer2011Bride · May 2012

OP I still don't get what you have against receiving actual cash or checks in cards like people have done for years. You actually get MORE MONEY this way than using these sites that take a cut. AND you aren't being rude. Why would you not want to do it this way?

tkddddddddd · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:f1ef79aa-cda9-4b92-88c9-b83dd540ffdd">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deposit A Gift - Review! : Actually, it is different from registering for items, because if you register for $30 towels, you receive the full value of those towels and your guests don't pay a fee on top of it. With this site, they have a service charge so you don't get the full value of their gift. I'd side eye a cash registry, and if I gave the couple money at all I'd give them a check because I don't want my money going to a company that profits off improper etiquette. ETA: No one was rude to OP. We told her why it might not be a good idea to use that site, we didn't say "You're a greedy B*#&$ for even considering using it."
Posted by pkontk[/QUOTE]

Right, the company your guest get the towels from just have to pay tax (they don't if they just gave cash), are going to be pushed into additions by the store (like gift wrap, etc.), have to waste gas money to get to the store/pay shipping costs and still show up to a wedding. Neither way is perfect let's not pretend a $30 towel is just a $30 towel.

tkddddddddd · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_deposit-a-gift-review?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:497ea39f-3f71-443c-9a1e-a37c89480797Post:2d687632-860c-44ef-927d-329f07d2a9ad">Re: Deposit A Gift - Review!</a>:
[QUOTE]totally understand your question. i asked the same a while back. unfortunately the loudest voices on theknot are critical, but LOTS of people use depositagift.com we had a great experience. it's totally legit, and IMHO no different than registering for stuff. in the end they are all registries and all suggestions. but if money is a more practical gift for you, as it was for us, this increases your chances of receiving that vs getting things you'll need to return, which i feel is more wasteful. you'll find lots of great reviews from knotties and wedchannelers here: <a href="http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585" rel="nofollow">http://local.weddingchannel.com/Wedding-Vendors/Deposit-A-Gift-Wedding-Reviews?ProfileId=363585</a> i also found the on-site review page helpful. people were honest and gave specific examples of their experience with depositagift. and i can personally attest to some of the best customer service i've ever experienced. no complaints from our guests and they actually used it, which is the true test :) <a href="http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials" rel="nofollow">http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials</a>
Posted by samgirl[/QUOTE]

I like you. Thanks for restoring my faith that not everyone on this site logs on just to tell people registering for alternative registries is a bad idea and that there is a picture perfect way to do everything that we should all be doing.

FYI - everyone I've talked to in my family keeps telling us how WE are being rude for having a registry at Bed Bath and Beyond as we're just gift begging and should just let guests bring money. In their view, that's the way things have always been done so they should be done that way.

annakrensky · May 2012

Totally legitimate! We used it for our wedding and had spectacular results. If you want more assurance, you should call customer support! Some of the best customer service I've ever had and the founder will answer all of your questions directly.

AVBarto · May 2012

Gosh I hope the girl who originally posted here got a laugh out of all of you clowns. I agree with her being upfront because she wanted an actual answer like..."Is the site legit". Not " do you think it is rude to register for money?" Anyone who has tried to have a somewhat offbeat wedding and get a normal answer knows what kind of response they will get to that. There's a diff between rude and upfront...sone of you ladies just need to put your big girl pants on. Funny enough none of you that were offended actually answered her question. HA Maybe her statement had some meaning afterall.

FCnibby · September 2013

Being a bit less abrasive would have served you well, though I understand the need for disclaimer. Also don't see the need for all the rude responses. It's perfectly acceptable to say, what we really need is money for _____, when asked.

I am not familiar with this site, but as pointed out the portion they keep is high and making a wedding websites with an explanation of your intent with the monetary gifts is a good way to let people know without saying "gimme money!!" and pointing to the registry on an invitation is becoming more commonplace. It gives all the details hotels, your cute engagement stories and yes, the registry.

Dreamergirl8812 · September 2013

FCnibby said:

Being a bit less abrasive would have served you well, though I understand the need for disclaimer. Also don't see the need for all the rude responses. It's perfectly acceptable to say, what we really need is money for _____, when asked.

I am not familiar with this site, but as pointed out the portion they keep is high and making a wedding websites with an explanation of your intent with the monetary gifts is a good way to let people know without saying "gimme money!!" and pointing to the registry on an invitation is becoming more commonplace. It gives all the details hotels, your cute engagement stories and yes, the registry.

Who are you talking to?? Did you dig up an old thread to justify your own rudeness?