So, I know some may suggest that I move this to a board about destination weddings, but wanted some local opinion...
Background: We are getting married in June '11 (no date yet because I'm in the National Guard and am waiting to get my updated training schedule... yes, this is making me a little insane because I have so much groundwork done, but am stuck in a holding pattern). Our ceremony will be on a weekday in Las Vegas, with our wedding party, family and a few close friends, followed by a Saturday "cocktail reception" at a bar in Dallas, where we will be doing some of the "traditional" reception activities (dance, cake, bouquet, etc).
I will be wearing my dress for both occasions, and the wedding party will be wearing the same clothes as well (for continuity and photos).
Question: After some consideration, I am considering purchasing my BM's dresses for them (they should end up being around $80 each, as they are from David's where I got my dress). I have 3 bridesmaids: 1 is my sister (who got married last summer) and my 2 best friends. I normally would not consider this, as asking someone to be in the wedding, it is often assumed that the cost of the dress will be incurred, BUT since I am asking them to travel and basically give up a whole week, I was thinking this may be a nice gesture. If I do this, I won't be able to afford much in the way of Christmas or a bridesmaid gift for them, but the total cost is probably a bit more than I may have spent anyways per person (other than on my sis)!
Is this appropriate? (and is it rude to let them know that this will be my bridesmaid gift to them?)
If I purchase their dresses, is it then appropriate to purchase the groomsmen's shirts and ties (the only specific required wardrobe for them)? Can we take the same approach with the guys (counts as their grooms' gift)?
Opinions appreciated...