Gifts for all... plus registry

Kalithia

Do I have to get gifts for everyone?  Meaning my fiance and I are paying for the whole thing ourselves.  All we ask is people to show up, eat and have a good time with us!  We are however getting gifts for bridesmaids/ groom men/ woman.  Do we have to get gifts for parents, flower girl, ring bearer, etc.?  We literally ar paying for everything for almost everyone except BMs and GMs.

Also, my FI and I want gifts of cash or Home Depot/ Lowes gift cards.  How do I get that out?  On my registry with this site I put Home Depot and Lowes but you can't do registries with them.  Is that enough of a hint?  Can I send out a mass email saying this?  Its this way because we just bought a house in October so we pretty much have everything for the house but we now need help with the revation to our backyard that is going to cost about 14K and repainting the whole house!

So need a lot of help....

GeauxTigers17

You definitely need wedding party gifts. I would give the RB and FG something small. I would do something for your parents, even if it's each of you writing your parents a heartfelt letter. It doesn't have to be expensive. 

As far as the registering - 

- You can only spread this information by word of mouth. Either don't register or have a very, very small one, and hope people get the hint (they usually will)

- NO EMAIL from you- it's going to look gift grabby and tacky

I understand why you want the cash, but it's just not appropriate for you to be e-mailing people about it. I know there is an inherent contradiction in the etiquette of wedding gifts, as the bride and groom shouldn't expect them, but it's also considered poor taste to attend a wedding and not give a present. 

Nevertheless, any communication about presents should be initiated by the guest, not you. If someone asks what you want, you can say "we are registered at X (if you decide to do a small registry), but we are undergoing a major renovation project as well!" but that's as specific as I think you can politely be. 

Summer2011Bride

I would give something, even something small, to the parents, FG and RB. They are a large part of your day, esp. your parents, and I'm sure they'd even appreciate a nice letter or card.

PLEASE don't send out an e-mail asking for cash/gifts from Lowe's. I would delete that email and probably not get you anything! That looks super gift grabby. If those stores don't have a registry option, just spread it via word of mouth WHEN ASKED. When someone says "Where are you registered?" you can say "At BBB and we are also saving up for/purchasing things from Lowe's for home improvement projects."

teachermegs

We gave presents to everyone... all parents, and WP. H's parents didn't help pay for anything, but they are important to us and we gave them a gift card and I am currently working on the parent albums. I have gotten some free codes, so not costing too much.

Use word of mouth to spread what you would like for gifts. Please do not email anyone. If they want to know, they will ask.

spalko

You can actually register at Home Depot (and I'm assuming Lowe's). All you have to do is go to the service desk and tell them that you are interested in bridal registry. I know this because I work part-time at the depot (honey and I met there!!) and it's done frequently in our store so I'm assuming its done in all stores. If not, ask to speak to a manager and see if they can help you out, there's no reason they shouldn't be able to help you out!!

kristinanddan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_gifts-plus-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:5510190b-1985-4e70-8ca6-0ff989f673a9Post:108f3095-4676-424b-ac03-f43d4f98ccc2">Re: Gifts for all... plus registry</a>:
[QUOTE]You can actually register at Home Depot (and I'm assuming Lowe's). All you have to do is go to the service desk and tell them that you are interested in bridal registry. I know this because I work part-time at the depot (honey and I met there!!) and it's done frequently in our store so I'm assuming its done in all stores. If not, ask to speak to a manager and see if they can help you out, there's no reason they shouldn't be able to help you out!!
Posted by spalko[/QUOTE]

The registry is only available in the one store though - that doesn't really help people with guests outside of one small area.

BrideCa2011

we considered Sears and Lowes, because we are fixing up a house- so that is what we need- but we ended up going with a wish registry because Lowes doesn't do them anymore- I don't trust not registering and hoping for cash.  I know some people do, but I don't.  

We are using www.uponourstar.com and have tons of non-traditional "manly" items on there- weeks to go and it has been used about 80% of our gifts.  (We also have a small BB*B registry for people who don't do online).  

bmoruzzi

Yeah, Home depot does a in store registry at our local store as well.  

Kalithia

I don't think the Home Depot in NC does registries but I will creat a guest list in addition to the website that list on my wedding website!  I will also look into Sears!