High priced gift question

peach5757

I created a registry and Williams-Sonoma and have a 10-piece all-clad stainless steal cookware set listed which costs $799.95.  My mom thinks it's too much and I should take it off.  I have other registries with Crate and Barrel and BB&B that have many lower priced items plus I have a number of lower priced items on the Williams-Sonoma registry.  Should I remove this set of pots and pans since it is so much?  Will people think poorly of us for asking for such an expensive gift?  I figure if people don't want to buy it for us they don't have to...it's just something that we need.

WGaches

People can go in together to get you a gift. As long as you have many price points covered, with lots of options in those other price points, I wouldn't worry about it. If this is something you truly want, leave it on there.

gottahavashorti

  I don't think it's rude to register for it unless your entire registry is high priced, and people may think that you're planning to use your registry completion discount for it.  I'm not sure what part of Central PA you're from, but I'm pretty sure $800 would be well above the normal price range for gifts in my part so I doubt it would actually be purchased.

Are the pieces available as open stock as well?  You could register for them separately so that they're more reasonably priced for your guests.  I know it ends up being more expensive per piece, but if you get most but not all of the pieces, you could exchange them for the full set.

zippityb

I put something that was over $1000 on our registry, not because I expect anyone to buy it, but to get the fulfillment discount afterwards. Don't feel bad.

Galaxy8227

We registered for a few higher items $500-$1,000 more so for the completion discount but also cause sometimes people like to buy gifts as a group.  As long as you have plenty of items that cost less it's fine. 

stefani103

I second:
-You're fine as long as you have lower-priced items.
-If you can register for them as pieces or smaller sets, you could try that.
(we registered for a smaller set and added a couple pieces individually.)
-People can go in as a group to buy them.
-You could use your discount later.

Leave them alone.

MyNameIsNot

Having a high cost item is fine so long as you have plenty of reasonably priced items.  But be realistic.  Most guests are not going to spend $800 on a gift for you.  If you really want them, breaking them up and registering for the individual pieces would help.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

That's pretty typical for All-Clad and frankly, I'd rather have nice pots and pans than register for an $80 set, you know? I think you're fine. I didn't think we'd need many cheap items, but probably half the stuff on my registry is under $30, which makes me not feel bad about the $350 kitchenaid mixer at ALL.

HayTay81

I agree, you never know when people are going to want to go in together on a really nice group gift, and if all else fails you'll definitely want that completion discount for a high-priced item like that! One other option I've seen is making a "cookware fund" if you really don't want it on your registry. I know myregistry.com will let you do this, and basically you would just put anything contributed to the fund towards the cost of the set  you want.

CA2MT4EveR

A guest may see that you have registered for a high priced gift, and knowing they cannot spend that amount may opt for getting you a $50-100 gift card that you can put towards purchasing the item yourself afterwards. 

curleycha

my MOH thinks that our "guests are going to go broke" because we put nice stuff on our registry. We put a few All Clad peices on there, as I would rather have quality pieces that I can keep forever. Just because they are on there doesn't mean people will buy them. Most guests will see the set and use it more as an idea of what you do want. You might end up with individual pieces from the set.

flamingtwig72

Definitely leave it, and don't feel badly about it. We're registering for an $1,100 Mauviel set from Williams-Sonoma, as well as a Kitchenaid mixer, and a few other higher priced items (including our china). Honestly, I think it's more ridiculous when people register for a ton of $5 items than when they register for a few nicer, more expensive things. Yes, make sure there's a range of prices, but people want to buy a gift for you, not a trinket (at least that's how I feel when I'm shopping for a gift for someone else's wedding). Also, your family members may be already planning to spend more on your gift than you think. My parents and my future in laws have told us that they're putting away money to get us more extravagant gifts.

flamingtwig72

Oh, also, the set is much more economical than the individual pieces, so I wouldn't want to encourage guests to spend more money collectively than just getting together and buying the set.

amagwire

I agree that it's fine as long as you have reasonable options as well.  When my ex-sister-in-law registered, she registered for the most expensive option for everything...towels, gravy boats, utensils. You name it, it had to be designer, and she is no domestic goddess. That is tacky - but as long as your registry isn't 'greedy looking', you should be fine.  

sweetviolet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_high-priced-gift-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:6407b8f8-9475-4f8d-ae47-24d00d83ed38Post:266dbe39-9670-43ed-92cb-e80364b80bd8">Re: High priced gift question</a>:
[QUOTE] One other option I've seen is making a "cookware fund" if you really don't want it on your registry. I know myregistry.com will let you do this, and basically you would just put anything contributed to the fund towards the cost of the set  you want.
Posted by HayTay81[/QUOTE]

Myregistry.com does allow for this, but i wouldn't recommend it - to me, it's a little tacky since it's really just another way to ask people for money. I agree with PP - you should be ok to leave it on your registry, and people can either go in together and buy it as a group gift, give you a gift card or money that you put towards it, or they'll just figure it's on there so that you can use your completion discount to buy it later.

sarabear23

HayTay, im beginning to think you work for myregistry.com, since EVERY time I have seen you post you mention it. Its annoying, shut up.

OP, leave the item on, I agree with everyone else.

ExpatPumpkin

We registered for the 15-piece set, which I believe was $1,200...  It was on the registry as the set, but I also listed the pieces separately.  My grandma ended up getting us the set, and I returned loose pieces for other items on the registry.

If you're really worried that it may look like "too much" then just take it off.  You can always register for the individual pieces and then trade those in towards the set.  You'll probably get gift cards too

janedoe1113a

I personally would register for the individual pieces and then return them to get the set.