While the wedding isn't for a few years, I've been talking with my mom about registries. A friend of mine recently got married and was telling me about her registry nightmare. When I brought it up to my mom, she quickly shut down any idea of my registering in the future for my own wedding.
When I asked her why she said I would not be doing that, she replied that it's too presumptuous of me to register and tell people to buy me gifts at my wedding. She says that the whole reason for people being there and for us to invite them is so that we can have friends and family together to celebrate our love and union.
While I do agree on that note, I keep asking myself if I should register or not. I've never been the kind of person who asks for many things, I've always hated people asking me what I want them to get me for birthdays or holidays. But no matter how much I protest gifts, people always want to know what I want or what they should get me.
My view of the registry is so that when people ask what to get us, we can easily direct them to things that we will need when we're on our own. (As opposed to volunteering where we are registered and what we want, which implies that we are expecting and want material or monetary gifts.)
Should I register and pretty much disrespect my mom? Or am I out of my mind for wanting to register, honestly, just in case someone wants to know?