Our wedding is this weekend (woohoo!) and the ceremony is just the 2 of us, as we live 6000 miles away from home (thank you, US Army). We are having a party in October when we return back to New England for the first time in over a year to celebrate our marriage, we're not really calling it a reception and we are NOT doing anything that is tradtionally found at wedding receptions..just food, drinks, music, and good company. Anyway, we have been asked by several people if we have a registry, so we began making a small one at Bed, Bath & Beyond for this purpose. However, the more we thought about it, the more we would prefer either no gifts or, if people feel the need to gift us with something, we would prefer cash or gift cards as we live in Hawaii and do not want to deal with the headache of shipping gifts back home. I know that when you purchase gifts online through the registry there is the option to ship directly to us in Hawaii, but reality is that 60% of our guest list is older family members who do not have a computer and will therefore pick up a gift at a BBB location or just buy us something else. I wish there was a place to put on the registry "Please consider shipping directly to our address in Hawaii" or something. How do we let our guests know we prefer either cash or no gift at all? I've tried a couple times to say "Oh, you really don't have to worry about getting us anything, we just want to party with you all!" but..that pretty much goes in one ear and out the other in my family.
