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2 vents! (Long)

Ok since I'm really annoyed and needed to just get this out here it goes!

I know I've B&M, FFF, and SA Wednesday this, but I think I hit my breaking point. I am so DONE with people asking to come to my wedding!!! I had a girl from High School who I decides on my birthday to send me a message on facebook asking to come to the wedding.
She said," Hey I know you aren't suppose to do this, but I wanted to know if I can come to your wedding... Sorry but can I have an invite? Hope your doing well and Happy birthday" Honestly!!! So I asked in my blunt, tired of dealing with this way. "Why do you want to come to my wedding? Since we haven't talked or seen eachother in 8 years?"
her response, " I thought it was be a pretty wedding" REALLY!! This is why.. Not because we use to be friends and you want to be there for me or something remotely personal. NO you want to come because it will be PRETTY! I haven't responded because I was so blown away and pissed as you can tell. Does anyone else deal with this many people asking to come to your wedding? I've had at least 20, then you have to add the plus on and that's 40 extra people. Are you kidding?

Second.. My sister still hasn't turned in my VISA request for my trip to India in two weeks. I gave her the application two weeks ago and she is just now getting around to it. She said she thinks it can be done in one day and I hope she's right. If she's not it will take 3 weeks like I read and then it will be too late. Thus, $2000 plane ticket down the drain. The only reason I found this out. She can't find my pics for it. I had to go get new ones made yesterday and overnight them to her today. I would get mad about this but getting mad at her will accomplish nothing. I should have just taken a day off and done it myself. I'm really kicking myself for not doing it. My older sister is normally so reliable, I have no clue what happened. I will just send it to her and pray it's done. I would hate to miss my cousin's wedding over something so stupid.

Thank you for letting me vent. I feel a ton better!

Re: 2 vents! (Long)

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    angieandjamesangieandjames member
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    edited December 2011
    The VISA thing is awful - that has serious repercussions (ie, the two grand being wasted)... so hopefully that works out for you!!

    As far as your unwanted guest, that is RIDICULOUS... tell her no, she can't come, because you are running out of room for people who want to be there to actually support you!  Tell her she can see the pictures on FB after the wedding.  UGH people are unbelievable sometimes!!
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    edited December 2011
    Uh, oh... you've reached that "fed up" point kinda early!! :)

    I think everyone gets this way as it gets closer.  It sucks, but there's no real way around it.

    Just tell the extras flat out NO... or don't even bother replying to them.  As for the visa, yikes!  Is it something that you can take control of yourself at this point or is it too late?
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    courtski2004courtski2004 member
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    edited December 2011
    Dear facebook 'friend',
    It will be a beautiful wedding, you're right! I'm sorry that I won't be able to accomodate you (since we really aren't friends), but I'll be sure to post fbook pictures so that you can see how pretty it is after it is over! Toodles!
    Or, just delete her. That would satisfy my b!tchy side...LOL.

    I do hope that your Visa issue doesn't hold you up from going to India, I know how excited you are to go!!
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_2-vents-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:cd65ef6f-ea9c-4442-9908-077928c137c0Post:3c424a12-9f4e-4135-aa4c-3fc97afbfb6a">Re: 2 vents! (Long)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Uh, oh... you've reached that "fed up" point kinda early!! :) I think everyone gets this way as it gets closer.  It sucks, but there's no real way around it. Just tell the extras flat out NO... or don't even bother replying to them.  As for the visa, yikes!  Is it something that you can take control of yourself at this point or is it too late?
    Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

    Really?? It gets worst then this? Yea it's just been so many people and if they said, "oh I want to celebrate your special day with you or I want to see the union." Anything personal I would consider it. I will have to cut all communications leading up to the wedding.

    No at this point all I can do is go to Houston myself and call into work. It's not worth it if I can overnight it to her and she can do the same thing. I'll find out what happens this tomorrow and if I need to I will drive down Friday or something.
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    edited December 2011
    I can't believe your FB "friend"... ridiculous! 

    I hope your Visa issue gets settled quickly!  
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    edited December 2011
    I had a few people who tried to invite themselves to our wedding.  My response was that although we would love to have you, unfortunately our budget doesn't allow any additions to the guest list. 

    I have no advice regarding your visa, but I hope it turns out okay.
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    juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    Deepthi,
    I know we've said it before, but so many people just feel entitled to come to a wedding.  "I knew you in HS.  We never talked but I knew you so I should definitely come to your wedding."

    I hope things work out for your VISA.  I'm sorry that you're sister kind of flaked on you.
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    edited December 2011
    WOW! I hope your VISA can get done in one day!!! *keeps fingers crossed*

    Your "friend" needs to grow up! No one should every invite themseleves. It's not their wedding, it's YOUR's! :)
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks to the girls on the SA board I've calmed down about the VISA. Apparently you can get it same day as long as you do it person. I'm still going to nervous until it's done, but at least I know it's possible.
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